Self-sabotage happens when you hinder your own success. This means taking destructive steps and changing your behavior to negatively impact all your aspects in life. Especially the aspects of self-improvement and self-actualization.
It’s very easy to start sabotaging yourself when chasing a certain goal. Like developing healthier habits, being more productive, or building healthier relationships. Self-sabotaging attacks your self-esteem, your confidence and affects your overall life.Self-sabotage is thinking that with every failed attempt to achieve your goals, you prove to yourself that you can’t have future success. And the funny thing with self-sabotage is that at first you really don’t notice that you are sabotaging yourself. Here’s an insightful guide to show you exactly how to recognise sabotage and how to best fight it. You’ll be a new YOU after going through this.
The main reasons behind self-sabotage are fears, avoidance of doing things that are uncomfortable and your usual thinking patterns. How you react emotionally in certain situations and what thoughts you have in that certain moment, create your negative habits. I’ll show you how to recognize self-sabotage and 5 reasons as to why you do it.
Negative or faulty thinking
You overvalue the things you know and undervalue the things that you don’t know. This leads to overreacting risks and avoiding new approaches, staying in the same place of familiarity. You begin to tell yourself you are unworthy of success. That you can not achieve what you set for yourself and that your goals and dreams are too risky and not realistic. Thinking like this even before starting to do something is what aids self-sabotage. You need to trust yourself and your powers, and have confidence that no matter what things will be alright.
Fear of failure or rejection
Fear of failure or rejection is another reason for self-sabotage. Even if you start working towards your goals or creating the life you’ve wanted, thoughts of failure begin to creep in. You start to beat yourself up, that your efforts are not enough and you are not capable of achieving whatever you set out to achieve. You begin to accept failure as an option before having the end results, setting yourself up for failure by fearing the future. Trust in yourself that even if your efforts don’t give you what you worked for, it’s still progress. And it shows that you are willing to put the work in, no matter what.
Procrastination and avoidance
Another reason you self sabotage is avoiding dealing with all problems. Or not being on top of things and having the discipline to get work done. You haven’t created a system for yourself that allows you to tackle your to-do list in an efficient manner. Or you are just too tired to make a plan or a schedule for yourself. You procrastinate or avoid doing something because you might be a perfectionist and you think you need to have all the necessary skill sets before jumping into something. An important thing to remember is that no one was born with the knowledge on how to take on life. You just have to go for it, and learn along the way. If you never do what you set your mind to, you’ll never know what it takes to get there and what you can achieve.
You don’t know what you want
Living a life that most people want for you is another reason as to why you sabotage yourself. You might not know what your personal values and goals are. Have you wondered why you want to exercise or read a book beyond wanting to do them? Is it because someone told you to do it? Or is it because you want to do it for yourself to learn, grow and have a healthier mind and body? Question yourself every time you want to do something, is it meaningful? How will it help you, what will you achieve, what you will experience? It’s important to do the things YOU want to do. Set the goals YOU want to achieve and create the life YOU want to live.
Being a perfectionist in everything you do means holding yourself for unrealistic standards and expectations. You always tell yourself you need to work harder, learn more, but that is just a recipe for sabotage and failure. But what it does is give you motivation for the short-term. If your expectations and standards are unrealistic, you’re going to fail to reach them. Which in result gives you frustration, disappointment, and even starting to lose hope. While you are capable of anything you set your mind to, set goals that are realistic for the moment you are currently in. Goals and dreams can be shaped how you want them to. Trust that you can grow in your power and accomplish what you desire.
You need to break the cycle of negativity and trust in yourself. Everyone is different and each sets the goals they are sure they can achieve. Don’t strive for perfection, it doesn’t exist. Don’t set unrealistic goals for yourself because someone else is doing it. Set the goals that are aligned with your values and dreams. Trust in yourself that you will achieve them, even if now it doesn’t seem like it. You’ll learn and you’ll grow and will get to that point when you’ll say you’ve made it.
So, next time you set your mind to something, trust in yourself and recognize when you are starting to sabotage yourself. You now have the means to acknowledge self-sabotage and you know how to fight it. Download the FREE guide and start working on the life you’ve always dreamt of. You got this!