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Self investment is something that I’ve started to focus on a few years back and I’m so grateful that I did. I’m honestly recommending doing this to everyone I know.

After all, YOU are the most important person in your life. As long as you’re healthy, happy and focused on your goals, things will go as planned: your productivity will boost, all of your relationships will improve and you’ll get to reach the lifestyle you’ve been dreaming of.

The best thing you can invest in after all, is not an object, is yourself.

But, how to do it? Why is it so important?

You’ll find out in the article below. Are you ready to start your exciting journey towards becoming the best version of yourself?

1. What is self investment?

Actually the definition is quite simple. It’s really when you decide to invest energy, finances and time in yourself. It doesn’t matter if you do it in order to develop yourself, to improve a skill or to enjoy life more.

“Invest in yourself to the point that it makes someone else want to invest in you”

Tony Gaskins

2. Why is it important? ⭐️

Let me give you a good example here. Let’s say that you invest in a business, and start buying professional equipment, employing good people, improving the schedule, taking good care of its image. Your business will start growing. The quality of its services will get higher and the profit will also grow with time. You will now have a high class business that everyone appreciates and aspires to have.

However, if you wouldn’t have invested anything, the business would’ve remained at the same level it started.

It’s literally the same thing with self investment.

As long as you take good care of yourself you will grow higher and higher. Your skills and qualifications will improve and you’ll finally become the best version of yourself.

3. ETM – Energy, Time, Money ✔️

These are the three most important investments you can make in yourself. Each and every single one of them has its impact and importance in your lifestyle.

Energy – If you invest your energy in yourself, you’ll be able to focus on you much more. Your productivity will increase and the results of your work will improve significantly.

Time – It’s important to use your time very wisely. Remember that we only have limited time in this life. Clear your schedule and think about what YOU want to do. Use your time in order to perfect this version of yourself.

Money – Of course finances are important. We live in the 21st century after all. Use your money wisely and invest some of them in yourself. There are a few things that only money can buy and they for sure will improve your lifestyle.

4. Energy for YOU 💡

How can you invest energy in yourself? There are for sure many ways, but let me give you some examples.

You can go for a run in the morning. This way, you’ll use your energy in a productive and healthy way. Not only you get a chance to clear your mind, but you can also work on your figure.

However, if you’re not into running you can try any other sport. Yoga, swimming, gym training, there are so many options. And all of them will have an amazing impact on your lifestyle.

5. Time for YOU ⌛️

Sometimes, your schedule is literally full from 8am in the morning until evening time or late at night. I get it, we’ve all been there. However, you absolutely need to invest some time in yourself. Take a few days off and go on a trip. I went on a couple of life changing trips in 2021 and it’s the best decision I’ve taken this year.

You can also spare a few hours in order to read a book, watch a movie, listen to some music. All of these recreational activities will help your creativity and productivity grow. You need to relax from time to time in order to achieve your true potential.

6. Money Investments 🌟

Money can buy loads of things. However, if you really want to use them wisely, you should always invest a bit in yourself.

For instance, you can invest in your appearance. In order to be successful you have to look successful. Take care of yourself!

You can invest in programs and courses that will help you perfect one of your skills. You can buy some self development books you wanted to read.

Moreover, you can buy some professional equipment that will make your work much more easier (a new laptop or a professional camera).

All of these things will help you on your way to success.

All things considered, it’s crucial to think about yourself. What’s your favourite way of self investment and why? Slide in my Instagram DM’s ( @notagirlygal ) and let me know.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

It’s not that hard to make considerable steps into your self development journey. Actually, working on your communication skills will help you become the best version of yourself. After a hard pandemic year, everyone forgot how important socialising truly is. You might’ve stopped seeing your friends and it got harder to get back to normal. However, once you succeed getting rid of your anxiety, things will get much more easier.

It’s important to improve your communication skills in order to build bridges, to learn from others experiences and also, as a source of entertainment . There are many reasons that’ll make you consider improving this trait. Let me share my secrets with you.

1. Be an active listener

How ironic it is, in order to advance in your communication skills, you’ll first have to be a good listener. An effective communicator is always paying attention to the conversation and to the things the others are saying.

If you feel too anxious to enter the conversation, this exercise is perfect for you. Listen to the conversation and think about answers in your head. However, you should try not to zone out. Even if you’re not as talkative as the others, everyone will appreciate if you pay respect to their conversation and listen.

Also, you can try to show the people around you that you understand, agree or disagree with them through facial expressions and gestures. You can nod your head every time you agree with someone, look curious when you are waiting to hear more about a conversation etc… Your face and gestures will communicate for you and help you engage into the conversation without actually talking .

2. About emotions

If you are an emotive person you might feel too anxious to fully express your point of view. You could try focusing on something else. Every time you feel like sinking, focus on your breath. You can even count every breath of air you take. You will calm down and be able to join the conversation again. However, you should keep it simple and short until you’re comfortable enough. After you feel like yourself again, you can try using longer phrases and expressing yourself freely.

It’s important to remember that everyone feels anxious from time to time. It’s a normal emotion. You shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself. Just work to become the best version of yourself. Your self development journey won’t be easy, but it’s amazing to see how far you’ve come.

3. Feedback?

Ask your friends for some feedback. They’ll help you realise your communication flaws and imperfections. You should ask them for a sincere response. Also, don’t forget that negative feedbacks are also really helpful. This way, you’ll get the chance to improve and work on the things you haven’t noticed by now.

Being aware of how others perceive your way of socialising will have a great impact on your self development journey.

Moreover, if the feedbacks are positive you’ll get an instant confidence boost. You’ll realise that you are enough and that you’re making progress. Oh, how could I’ve forgot! Progress!!! You should also celebrate every step you take in the right path! You deserve it!

4. Don’t talk over other people

It’s important to respect every member of the conversation. Even if you’re disagreeing with someone, let them finish their phrase and then you’ll also get the chance to express yourself. I agree that in some situations it’s quite hard not to interrupt someone. However, everyone should be allowed to finish their point of view. I believe you don’t like being interrupted as well.

If you want to add something, the rule stays the same. After the person speaking finishes you can simply say : “ I’d like to add that (…) “. The conversation will flow better and will be much more intelligible.

People these days somehow forgot about this amazing form of showing respect, even if it’s a great way to improve your communication skills.

5. Eye contact

When you are having a conversation it’s important to make eye contact with the person speaking. This way, you will show them that you’re paying attention to what they’re saying. Moreover, this “exercise” will also help you understand that person at another level. People tend to express their emotions and feeling through facial expressions. If you maintain eye contact, you’ll fully understand what are that persons feelings, thoughts and emotions.

In addition, you’ll pay respect to them and you’ll also show your engagement to the conversation.

Being able to communicate is amazing. Therefore, you should be constantly looking into how to improve your skills. By socialising we meet people, create relationships, make an impression about ourselves and also prove our points. It’s important to master this skill in order to go on with your self development journey.

Which is your secret in improving your communication skills? Slide in my Instagram DM’s ( @notagirlygal ) and let me know.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Self development is key if you want to become the best version of yourself. You’ll have to be incredibly confident and get ready to face every single challenge in your journey. It’s wonderful how blessed we are to be able to witness life success stories online. You have everything at your finger tips from biography books to podcasts and vlogs and it’s quite beautiful to let others stories inspire you.

I truly believe that everyone can succeed, all you need to do is work hard for your dreams. Don’t give up when you’re going through challenges, just keep breathing and chase your dreams. If you keep your positive energy up and have enough discipline, I promise that you’ll be able to succeed in no time.

Anyways, you’re here to unleash five amazing steps on how to become the best version of yourself, right? Continue reading to reveal my secrets 😉

1. Be aware of your purpose

If you want to succeed in becoming the best version of yourself, you’ll have to know your purpose. You can’t go ahead with your journey without knowing what your goal is.

If you don’t exactly know what your purpose is, you’ll have to start looking for it. Start asking yourself different questions until you define what it is that drives you. And when you realise what your purpose is, your motivation will instantly boost. Even if it might seem like you can’t find your answer, just continue looking, it’s hidden in your inner self. Maybe you can even take a few days off, just to focus on yourself and on what you really want.

2. Don’t be afraid of failure

You can’t start your self development journey if you’re afraid of failure. Everyone has ups and downs in life. It’s completely normal. Once you understand how many things you can learn from your mistakes, you’ll be able to entirely focus on the process. It’s completely normal to be anxious and to only hope for the best, but you know what they say : “The road to success is paved with failures”.

I believe you’ve seen or read at least a few stories of one’s road to success. Therefore, you’ve seen how many challenges they’ve encountered on the way. Without these challenges, their stories would’ve never been inspiring enough and they’d never be able to get to where they are today. Motivational, right? Think about that the next time you face a hard time.

3. Think big!

Don’t be ashamed or afraid to think big! For instance, if you set an easy to reach goal, it’ll be hard to know what your next step is when you’ve achieved the goal. However, if you set higher goals, you’ll be constantly motivated to work hard and to improve yourself on the way. Productivity and creativity will come on the way. Also, you’ll be able to achieve many other important skills and traits on the way.

In order to become the best version of yourself, you’ll have to think big and to believe that you can do it! Without positivity, you’ll fall into dark thoughts and you’ll slow the process of achieving success.

4. Take care of your mind

As I’ve said before, too many negative thoughts can easily harm your mind. Therefore, if you ever feel like you’re falling into your own thoughts and your emotions seem to drown you, don’t be ashamed to consult a therapist or someone who has enough knowledge to support you. It’s important to take care of your mind. Without it, you’ll never be able to achieve your goal.

However, if you don’t feel comfortable going to a specialist, you can at least talk to the people you can confide in. Tell them about your thoughts and free yourself from all the worries. Sometimes, a good chat is the best answer.

5. Free time

Even if it might seem like the harder you work, the faster you’ll achieve your goal, it’s not entirely true. It’s important to take breaks from time to time, in order to gain your energy and motivation back. For example, try not to work too much during the weekends. These are only for your well-being and relaxation. Instead, you can still do productive things. For example, hiking, going to visit another city, reading, jogging all of these examples are amazing for your self development journey. If above I spoke about keeping your mind healthy, now I am talking about keeping your body in shape. Let it relax because after all, your body is your temple, right?

All things considered, THIS Summer it’s really the best time to work on being the best version of yourself. Follow these steps and remember that you can do anything with hard work. Also, don’t forget that you can always slide in my DM’s if you need a little push (@notagirlygal).

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Personal growth is extremely important if you plan reach success and become the best version of yourself. Every single one of us needs to grow and develop. Focusing your attention on personal growth needs to become your number one goal. Think you can’t do that right now due to other commitments? Remember that the time you invest in yourself, in making you better is actually invaluable. You know what they say, what you give is what you get.

Let’s get straight to the point. How do you actually do it?

One amazing way of working on your personal growth is actually through the practice of meditation. I can’t stress enough how much meditation has helped me become a better person, to be calmer and see things from another perspective. In other words, it makes you be at peace with yourself, helps with clearing your mind and aids with thinking more objectively. But, what is meditation and which are its origins?

Continue reading to find out how to work on your personal growth NOW with the help of meditation!

About meditation and its origins

When meditation is mastered, the mind is unwavering like the flame of a candle in a windless place.

Bhagavad Gita

I find it very interesting how a technique used in the 5th millennium BC is still popular in our day and age. Meditation has ties in ancient Egypt and China. It’s believed that it’s originally from India and throughout the years, neighbourhood countries adopted it.

However, even if specialists can state that meditation began thousands of years ago, the exact date is still uncertain. Imagine that even greek philosophers used to practice meditation in order to improve their philosophical life.

In the past, men and women used to believe they gained wisdom by meditating. Which is actually quite true! During the time when Buddha expanded meditation throughout India, 3 ways of meditation began well known and used.

Jain meditation in India – this type of meditation involves your mantra and thinking deeply about the three pedestals of thinking: focusing your attention on the right faith, knowledge and conduct.

Taoist meditation in China – this practice accentuates on the union with nature and on your inner self.

Confucian meditation in China – in order to engage in this type of meditation you don’t have to stop your thoughts, just to redirect your focus on grasping discipline in your current state.

Let’s take a look at the benefits of meditation now!

1. Meditation keeps the doctor away?

Well, not really, but this practice really improves your health. Meditation is known for lowering blood pressure and cholesterol. Therefore, it really does a great job in strengthening your immune system.

Keep your mind and body healthy in order to reach success! In order to make your dreams come true, you’ll have to focus on your physical and mental well-being.

2. Focus and concentration for personal growth

Practicing meditation will help you develop your capacity of focus and concentration. During every session, you’ll have to clear your mind completely and concentrate on your inner self. Therefore, after meditation becomes part of your routine, these skills of yours (focus and concentration) will increase significantly.

3. Be confident and grow beautifully

If you meditate, you will also feel more confident. Confident in yourself and that things will work out exactly how you want them to. I believe everyone knows how important confidence really is these days. Reaching success can be easier if you have this trait in your back pocket. So, make the most out of it!

After you start meditating you will see how much self trust and respect you’ve gained. You will learn how to follow your own intuition and how to achieve your goals.

4. Becoming stress-free

Considering how much you have to focus on clearing your mind and relaxing your body if you are in a meditation state, we can all approve that this practice also reduces stress. If you learn how to control your mind and how to get rid of the unwanted thoughts, you can instantly reduce the level of stress you’re confronting with in a day.

If you want to use your full potential, you’ll have to be relaxed and to stop overthinking things.

5. A creativity boost

If you focus your mind on the positive aspects of life and you meditate weekly in order to maintain your personal growth journey, your creativity will increase on the way. It is normal for you to be much more motivated and creative if your mental state is a good one.

Your mind will be able to think further and to gain much more power, which is just amazing.

It’s wonderful to see how many great things you can achieve if you start to practice meditation. Actually, I believe that if you’re on your road to success and you are keen on achieving your goals, meditation will be your best friend. Why? You might ask. The answer is quite simple. Everyone needs an escape from reality. A place where they can stop stressing so much and where they can focus on themselves only. Isn’t it great that we’ve found this place inside our own minds?

If you can learn how to control your mind, body and soul, the power you’ll hold over your life will be amazing. Create a life you love, because I know you deserve it bestie!

All things considered, how did meditation help you during your personal growth journey? Slide in my DM’s on Instagram (@notagirlygal ) and let me know.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Women empowerment has been on my lips so much recently. I truly want to empower you all lovely women to become the best version of yourselves. Therefore, here I am with another inspiring article on how to stay motivated during Summer. It’s quite hard to focus on your goals when the weather is so inviting, your friends are always hanging out and you just can’t feel like working. However, there are tasks that need to be done and no one will help you achieve your goals besides yourself.

Of course it’s hard, but if you want to reach success you’ll have to set your priorities straight and work on your time management. Enjoy every second of spare time and work as hard as in every other season. You can do it! It gets easier with time, trust me.

If you want to learn 5 tips on how to stay motivated during Summer right NOW continue reading and follow the steps below:

1. Time management

No one said you can’t take breaks. Actually, breaks are also very productive and will help you increase your level of performance. However, you can’t live from break to break. Make up a clear schedule on how you want your days to look like and stick to it. For example:

– Wake up early and work from 8:00am to 12:00pm. After that, you can enjoy a lunch break at your favourite restaurant. If you don’t fancy going on your own, invite one of your friends or your significant other.

– Then you can work from 2pm to 4pm and have a short coffee break at the end of the session.

– Then, do the last tasks from 5pm to 7pm, and now you have your evening free. Not only you’ve worked 8 hours without realising, but you’ve also finished your tasks in time in order to enjoy the rest of the day. You can head to the city, relax, take a walk, do literally anything you want. Moreover, given the high temperatures in Summer, you can’t even go outside before 6pm if you’re not heading to the pool.

2. Change your work space

If you have to work on a project and the weather is way too inviting, don’t stay inside. Change the atmosphere and romanticise your life! Set up a nice and quiet place outside and leave the desk behind. You’ll do two things at once. Moreover, your dose of creativity will increase because you’re feeling happier and your project can have a more successful result. If you feel like you’re stuck inside, go outside! Do everything you can to be as productive as possible. Reach your full potential!

3. Reward yourself!

After a hard day of work, reward yourself! You should never forget to thank yourself for all of the hard work you’ve done in order to achieve your dreams. You can reward yourself with your favourite food, with wine, a day at the spa or even a night out. It’s completely up to you but it’s also necessary. You are a human being after all, don’t forget about the simple pleasures in life. They are as much as important as achieving your goals.

4. Surround yourself with positive people

The environment you’re living in has a great effect on your motivation. Surround yourself with people who care about you and your well-being. This way, if they know you have work to do, they won’t pressure you in delaying your schedule just to hang out. Also, if the people around you have also similar priorities, you’ll be able to motivate each other. This step is all about women empowerment. You’ll have to empower the ladies around you to go after their dreams. All of you can hang out during the weekends or during your days off. If you know how to arrange your schedule, you’ll have time for anything.

5. Love yourself

In order to respect your work and your journey, you’ll first have to love yourself. As I said many times before, YOU are unique in this world. Moreover, you should be your no. 1 priority. Learn how to love yourself with simple exercises such as: writing down five things you love about yourself everyday. You will help your brain realise how great you really are. Also, another practical thing would be to read a few women empowerment quotes every day in the morning. Start your day fresh and confident. Don’t let yourself down and start achieving those goals.

6. Hobbies and passions

It’s proven that hobbies and passions will increase your creativity and your desire to start achieving your goals. Therefore, if painting relaxes you and helps you with your imagination, do it! You should do it as often as you can. It’s so important to make time for our passions. At the end of the day you’ll be much more relaxed and ready to work hard.

All things considered, I hope that this women empowerment article helps you stay motivated during the Summer 2021. Let’s lift each other up this season – send me a DM on my Instagram account (@notagirlygal) and let me know your best tips for staying motivated!

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

I absolutely love promoting women empowerment on my blogs. Therefore, if public speaking tips is what you need now, this is the right article for you!

Standing tall in front of a crowd and holding a speech can get really emotional. It’s hard to maintain the correct position and to nail all of your lines. However, I am here to teach you how to improve your public speaking NOW!

I’ve been put in a position where I had to speak in front of multiple people. I know how hard it can get. Everyone seems to analyse and critique your every move. Also, emotions can easily get in the way. But I’m 100% sure you can do it! It might take a few practice sessions before you head to the scene, but in the end, if you follow these steps you’ll do amazing.

1. Plan your speech

Planning my speech is literally my favourite part before heading to the meeting. You should firstly know your audience in order to know what is the tone of voice you’ll be using. For example, if there’s a small meeting with your colleagues, you can keep it casual. Moreover, you can add a few subtle jokes from here and there. But, if the meeting is important, you should keep a formal tone of voice and treat your speech seriously.

You can also pay attention to the length, you don’t want to bore anyone after all!

And most importantly, don’t forget to start your speech powerful!

2. Practice makes it perfect

Excellence is not an art. It is the habit of practice.

Aristotle

If you want to nail it, you’ll have to practice over and over again. A nice exercise that can make practicing a little funnier is to pretend there’s an audience in front of you and to read your speech out loud. You can even dress up in order to trick your brain into thinking it’s real. However, if you feel like this exercise isn’t working out for you, I have another one! Go find a mirror and read it to yourself! Don’t be embarrassed and get rid of all of the emotions.

While you’re practicing you’ll have to use the same gestures you’ll like to use on the stage. Maybe you can walk a bit, use hand gestures in order to make your speech powerful and don’t forget about facial expressions! You’ll have to work on all of these things!

3. Feedback is always a good idea

After you’ve practiced alone, there’s time for you to start holding your speech in front of some real people. Ask one or two of your friends or family members to help you. Hold your presentation in front of them and at the end ask for their opinion. Don’t forget that negative feedback is also very helpful. Not only this exercise will help you get rid of a few emotions, but it’ll also help you improve your technique. Listen to your loved one’s pieces of advice and track your progress! A little women empowerment is always welcomed after all!

4. Notes can get in the way?!

Many people tend to bury their heads in the notes while they are holding the presentation. In order for this public speaking event to work out great you’ll have to make a connection with the audience. This action is impossible if you can’t make eye contact with the people who are listening to you. Moreover, your speech will seem unnatural if you read it or learn it from scratch. The best way to hold an oration is to create a conversational atmosphere between you and your public. I know it’s quite hard, but I’m also sure you’ll get there sooner or later.

5. Pause

Take your time! I’ve seen people that tend to talk really fast and lose the audience’s attention on the way. No one’s rushes you. Therefore, make sure you’re breathing correctly and taking pauses when necessary. Take your breaks strategically. For example, you can take one right after important points. This way, you can let the people make time to think about them. Let all the information sink in and begin again. Your speech will be much more professional and the people will understand your point of you better.

6. Empowerment

That’s a tip that will help you prepare before getting up on the stage. Talk with your friends or your loved ones before the presentation. Let women empowerment do its job and enjoy a boost of confidence. Sometimes, some nice words is all that you need in order to get rid of the excessive amount of emotions. The people around you will do wonders with your confidence. Therefore, you’ll get up on stage radiating happiness and success. Don’t be afraid of failure, I know you can do it!

7. Don’t be too hard on yourself

Relax. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are living and learning. Forgive yourself and grow from the experience.

Ankit Verma

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter how well you did on your speech. Remember that you have great things to learn from all of your experiences, therefore you should see it as another achievement. And remember that the next time is always going to be better! Don’t overthink the way your speech is going to go! Just let it be!

All things considered, I believe this women empowerment article is really helpful in increasing your confidence for the next speech you’re going to hold. I know you can do it! If you have other questions remember you can always slide in my Instagram DM’s ( @notagirlygal ).

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Want to get unstuck? Have you ever felt that you just can’t get through a challenging period in your life? Do you feel overwhelmed and perhaps confused? Do you feel like you can’t focus your attention on the things that matter to you the most?

Well, everyone has been here at least once in their lifetime and staying STUCK is not a solution. You’ll have to look inward, find your ambition and don’t allow these moments to define your life. But, don’t worry, I’m here for you! Let’s go through my five ways of getting unstuck right now.

Also, stay until the end to download my FREE worksheet for an exclusive exercise that will make you answer all the questions you have for yourself and make you see the light at the end of the tunnel again. Let’s get unstuck together!

1. Forget the past

Maybe the past is keeping you stuck. Therefore, you’ll have to let go of it. Whatever mistake you made that keeps you up at night, it’s not worth it. You still have time to change your future. Living in the present not only brings joy and happiness for the moment, but it will also improve your future self. If a bad choice is keeping you from your happiness now, imagine how much healthier and better decisions can improve your future. Makes sense, right?

2. Fully believe in yourself

Being confident can be a challenge, but once achieved you can never go back to how you used to be. A boost of confidence will help you improve most of your skills, from social to professional ones. Even though the road to success can be paved with challenges, you’ll have to believe in yourself. A good exercise in starting to improve your confidence is looking in the mirror and repeating affirmations such as : “I am enough!”, “I am powerful”. You will start believing in them sooner than you think because guess what? You truly are enough and powerful 😉

Ready to start actioning? Remember to download my FREE worksheet at the end for an exclusive exercise.

3. Remember your ‘WHY’

Always remember your ‘WHY’! In order to pass this point in your life you can focus on the positive aspects of your journey. Try counterattacking every negative thought in your mind with a positive one or a beautiful memory. Being able to control your mind is key. It’s kind of impossible to succeed in life if you’re always thinking about failure. The law of attraction really works. If you’d like to try an exercise, you can write down positive affirmations on post-its and place them somewhere you can always see them. It truly helped me 🙂

4. Find your purpose

How could you ever succeed if you don’t have a well defined purpose? It’s crucial to find out what you want to achieve in life. Rearrange your thoughts and start focusing on your goals. If you find your big aspiration, it will become easier to stay motivated and keep moving forward. Once you’ve got your purpose, you can spend your time finding a successful way to achieve it.

5. It’s okay to ask for help

If you find yourself overwhelmed by the situation you shouldn’t be afraid to ask for help. Either from a professional or from your loved ones, there’s no shame in admitting you got stuck. It can happen to anyone. After you’ve started to open up, you’ll feel much more relieved.

Download my FREE worksheet ‘How to get unstuck in 5 easy steps‘ and start changing your life today. Go from negative thinking to positive in under 10 minutes with this powerful exercise.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Did anyone say Women Empowerment? I’ve written this article for all the women out there who want to improve their self-discipline and go after their GOALS!

Self-discipline is key in achieving any task, so I felt the need to share my best and most effective simple habits for you to improve it.

Firstly, there are some days when you might feel incredibly dissatisfied because you couldn’t finish even half of the chores you had planned out. And that’s OK. To be honest, we we all go through this once in a while, you just have to keep up with your greatest goals and don’t let it become a habit. Therefore, considering how important women empowerment is for me, I’m here to shout from the rooftops: YOU’VE GOT THIS, GIRL!

I truly believe that with good self-discipline you can do anything you plan in life. It’s about knowing how to control your actions, feelings and emotions and the ability to stick to your plans. An improved self discipline positively impacts your state of mind and your well-being, helping with your motivation and productivity.

I’m telling you this from my own experience, the best way to overcome your obstacles is to improve your self-discipline, and these are my best 7 habits that you definitely have to try:

1. Create an inspiring vision board

While I enjoyed a talk with my besties on how to improve women empowerment I discovered this amazing exercise. Putting your objectives wherever you can see them first thing in the morning and last thing at night can help you stay motivated and inspired to wake up and do the things you need to do to achieve your highest ambitions. You simply need to print some photographs that reflect what you want to be, achieve, and obtain, such as a car, a job, or job title. Also, sprinkle in some quotes to keep you on track 😉

2. Practice prioritisation of tasks

When you have to do some things that put you off, you should better do those things first! You’ll feel more relieved and satisfied at the end of the day, I promise you!

Planning your days and determining which tasks are worth allocating the most work to can help you be more productive and effective throughout the day and less prone to postpone things. I also love the 80-20 rule which makes you put 20% effort into something that will bring you 80% results. Organise your daily tasks by date and time on Sunday evenings – it will also help you sleep better knowing that you’ll know exactly what you have to do on a Monday morning.

3. Your diet is important!

Make sure you’re fuelled throughout the day with nutritious snacks and meals every few hours. Eating frequently aids with blood sugar control and it also boosts your concentration and decision-making abilities. In the same time, try to stay away from snacking on crisps or chocolate – they’ll make you feel more sleepy and more likely to procrastinate.

4. Embrace the ‘wrong’

Developing self-discipline requires a departure from your usual pattern, which can be frightening and strange. It will feel wrong to quit a habit and begin a fresh one. Your brain will fight the change because it is trained to do so. What’s the remedy? Accept the unfavourable. Remember that women empowerment exits and that you’ll be accredited by all your besties out there.

5. Reward your efforts

Self-discipline does not imply that your new life must be completely demanding. In fact, denying yourself empathy frequently leads to disappointments and reverting to old habits. Schedule specific breaks, snacks, and prizes for yourself while practicing self-control. Are you on a diet? Saturday can be designated as ice cream sundae day. Are you trying to lose weight? After a month of hard work and gym visits, reward yourself with a massage. Are you trying to save some money? On Sunday, treat yourself to a day at the mall. Self-discipline can be difficult. Reward yourself for your efforts!

6. Don’t get tempted

“Out of sight, out of mind.”Right?

When attempting to increase your self-discipline, removing all temptations and distractions from your environment is a critical first step. If you want to be more in control of your eating, stay away from junk food. Turn off your phone and clean up your desk if you want to boost your focus while working. Get rid of the negative influences in your life to set yourself up for success.

7. Learn how to forgive yourself

It might be difficult to adapt to a new way of life. Remember that things don’t always go as planned, not just physically, but also mentally.

You’ll experience peaks, tremendous successes and utter failures. The most important thing is to keep trying. Accept responsibility for your failure and move on. It’s easy to get caught up in feelings of guilt, rage, or irritation, but these feelings will not aid in the development or improvement of self-control.

Alternatively, see the flaws in your approach as opportunities to improve your strategy in the future. Pardon yourself and return to the game as quickly as possible. It’s more difficult to get back on track the longer you’ve been off your game.

As I mentioned previously, self-discipline is incredibly complicated and essential to cultivate and grow because it involves deciding to change various aspects of your life and getting yourself up when you stumble. You’ll surely reach your true potential with enough time, dedication, and persistence.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Are you looking to invest more time in your self-development? I’m a massive fan of self-help books and since 2017 I haven’t been reading any novels and instead I’ve been focusing on business, personal development or financial books. Trust me when I say this, books have MASSIVELY help me get to where I am today. From reading about entrepreneurship on a double decker bus at 8am in Central London to owning my own business in 2020 and living my dream. Let’s get into my top five books to read for your own self-development.

One’s biggest goal in life should be to achieve the best version of himself / herself. Growing, learning and improving your skills on the way is one of the most beautiful journeys in life. Therefore, the achievement of knowing how much you’ve evolved and changed over the time is incredibly satisfying.

How can books help you with your self development?

You may ask yourself this question whilst heading to my list below. Well, books are one of the oldest ways of providing and receiving information. Not only reading is a beautiful and relaxing exercise for the brain, but being able to reflect on what you’ve just read makes you better understand the concepts you’re diving into.

1. Feel the Fear and Do it Anyways, Susan Jeffers

Every time you encounter something that forces you to “handle it,” your self-esteem is raised considerably. You learn to trust that you will survive, no matter what happens. And in this way your fears are diminished immeasurably.

Susan Jeffers has seriously updated the game with this book. I remember reading this in 2018 on the Piccadilly Line whilst going to work and all I wanted was to sit there for the whole day to soak all this information in. The author teaches you how to focus on the positive aspects of life and how to control your negative thoughts and emotions. Moreover, she explained the psychology behind people’s actions in such a wonderful way. Turn passivity into assertiveness while beginning another chapter not only in the book, but also in your life! I truly believe that this book has changed my life.

2. Tools of Titans: The Tactics, Routines, and Habits of Billionaires, Icons, and World-Class Performers , Tim Ferris

The most important trick to be happy is to realize that happiness is a choice that you make and a skill that you develop. You choose to be happy, and then you work at it. It’s just like building muscles.

Tim Ferris interviewed more than 100 world-class performers and made a professional and beautiful guide of habits. The book itself presents advice in order to reach success provided by extremely successful people. Find out how routines and habits can help you accomplish your goals and start your journey of self development with Tim Ferris. This is a must have book for anyone who thrives for being better and more successful.

3. How to Be an Overnight Success, Maria Hatzistefanis

Success is about the relentless pursuit of what you want and hard work is an essential ingredient.

How to be a success overnight is one of the best books to read if you’re feeling unmotivated. The author will make you realise everything is possible and will for sure give you a boost of confidence from the first pages.

Maris Hatzistefanis (owner of Rodial) teaches us how to dream big and still achieve success. With a company built from scratch in her bedroom, she didn’t let anything come between her passion for beauty and her. She wished it, worked hard and in the end, she accomplished her goal. The book tells her story and also includes her advice in order to become a successful entrepreneur. Go ahead and make it work!

4. #GIRLBOSS , Sophia Amoruso

Abandon anything about your life and habits that might be holding you back. Learn to create your own opportunities. Know that there is no finish line; fortune favors action. Race balls-out toward the extraordinary life that you’ve always dreamed of, or still haven’t had time to dream up. And prepare to have a hell of a lot of fun along the way.

Sophia Amoruso made from her book #GIRLBOSS a guide to success. It’s all about sharing her journey to launching Nasty Gal, a fashion retailer company. She proves that being successful actually has nothing to do with how popular or liked you are, the power is in your hands!

5. Create a life you love, Andrada Cirjeu

The fifth book from my 5 books to read list is actually written by me. This book will show you how to create a life you love. Will give you brand new reasons to get up in the morning and feel extremely ready to action all of your dreams. You’re capable of wonderful things! Why not shape your life in the way you want it to be? Get the book right now whilst it’s on sale.

I hope that you’ve enjoyed my 5 books to read for your self-development recommendation and that you’re going to absolutely smash all of your goals this year! If you decide to get one of them for yourself, DM me @notagirlygal on Instagram and let’s start discussing it.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

There are so many stoic life lessons worth living by. But before going into them, I’d love introducing you to Stoicism.

Stoicism teaches how to keep calm no matter the circumstances. It makes you focus on what you can control and accept the many things you can’t actually directly control. The main idea is that your mind will never leave you, the more you can work with it and train it, the wiser & happier you’re going to become.

This philosophy reflects on enjoying all the aspects of life and living worry-free. Moreover, being able to acknowledge and be grateful for whatever life throws at you is an incredible practice. If you start living your life by stoic lessons, you will be able to always keep your head up, look and feel confident and achieve a positive mindset.

Let’s get straight to the point and find out which 10 stoic life lessons are worth living by!

1. Prepare for future failures

For by foreseeing anything that can happen as though it will happen he will soften the onslaught of all his troubles.

Seneca wrote this statement in order to explain that everyone should expect failures in life – it’s just the way life is. However, once these storms appear in your journey, you should be able to overcome them strategically to maintain your life at peace. You should be brave enough to endure the thought of failure or disappointment. If you’re well prepared for the worst, then you won’t feel like you have no choice; you’ll get to apply plan B or C. Think about it, if you already know that it’s going to rain today and decide to take an umbrella with you JUST IN CASE, you’ve already seen the worse that can happen and prepared for it. Apply this type of thinking to everyday events and you’ll live more peacefully.

2. Face your fears

He who fears death will never do anything worthy of a living man.

In this saying, Seneca brings something very powerful to our attention. He explains that a man who fears everything in life, including death will never be able to enjoy his / her presence on earth. Moreover, the ones who live in fear won’t get the chance to do something remarkable in their lives. Being able to take risks and to enjoy every moment at its highest potential will only bring you positivity, success and happiness. Face your fears and start living in order to be truly ALIVE.

3. Stop waiting

How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?

Epictetus said it better than everyone could! In life, you should know exactly how worthy you are. Therefore, why staying in the darkness, waiting for the light to come when you can demand it yourself? Only you have the power to change your life and to make it as good as possible. Only accept the best for yourself – you only have one life. If you don’t believe you truly deserve it, than why anyone would?

4. Don’t take anything for granted

You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.

Marcus Aurelius wanted to make everyone understand that life shouldn’t be taken for granted. Maybe tomorrow you won’t have the possibility to say to that one person how much you actually love them. Maybe tomorrow you won’t get the chance to go running, to say that joke, to make a tattoo, to even say sorry. Start living your life like there is no tomorrow and enjoy every single second of it.

5. Past, present and future

Life is very short and anxious for those who forget the past, neglect the present, and fear the future.

You will never be able to enjoy your life at its fullest if you “forget the past, neglect the present and fear the future”. Why so? Well, Seneca believed that if you forget your roots and where you come from, if you don’t take responsibility of your present actions and you always live with the fear of the future you’ll not be able to be truly be alive. It is important for a human being to comprehend time at its true value. Therefore, if you don’t start realising the difference between past, present and future and you live with continuous fear, you are not living life at its fullest.

6. Life is a bumpy ride

A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.

Through this quote Seneca wanted to explain how a man can never achieve success without having some challenges along the way. There is no such thing as a clear road ahead because life is truly a bumpy ride. Therefore, you should face every challenge with positivity and always do your best. In the end, if you work hard and don’t stop believing you will achieve the success you’re dreaming of.

7. Keep calm

If you are easily provoked you are easily controlled.

It’s true that if a person can’t keep a clam mind, they can be “easily controlled”. If you start training your mind to stay calm and find peace, you will be able to focus on the really important aspects of life. You will understand that fighting or arguing will not get you anywhere. Being able to control your emotions is a sign of strength. Work for it and in the end claim it as one of your traits.

8. If you seek change, start with yourself

Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be, be one.

Marcus Aurelius explained the importance of always starting the change with yourself. We all have a theory of what a good man should be, but action speaks louder than words. Start living as a good person today and each time you notice a negative thought entering your mind, remember your new approach to life.

9. Enjoy life till the very end

Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.

This quote by Voltaire is one of my very favourites. It reminds me how important it is to enjoy every second of my life. Seizing the day is one of the most important secrets in life. Carpe diem, right?

10. Do it for yourself

Why should we pay so much attention to what the majority thinks?

I find this quote by Socrates so resembling to the modern society we live in. You only have one life, therefore you should do what makes YOU happy, you should follow your instincts and stop paying so much attention of outside opinions. You are the captain to your ship and the road you want to follow is your choice!

These stoic life lessons represent how I’ve decided to live my life. I found peace and happiness in them and I’m forever grateful. I hope you’ve found inspiration in this article and that we are ready to seize the day together!

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO