To have the ability to adapt to changes faster, to build your confidence, and to have a sustainable growth in your self-improvement journey, you need to invest in yourself.

The energy you put into the process of investing in yourself will determine the quality of your life and your future. It’s the surest way to achieve your dreams, be successful, and improve your productivity. And overall become more satisfied with your life. 

An important thing to make note of is that before starting to invest in yourself, you need to be aware of the things you wish to accomplish. Sit back, reflect on the things you have now, your attitude towards things. And then see what you have to work on in order to have the things you’ve wished for. And here are a few ways you can start to invest in yourself: 

Develop your skills | Invest in Yourself

Start working on the skills YOU need in order to make your dreams and goals a reality. Before doing so, you have to be aware of the things you need to improve. If your goal is to be given a promotion at work, you would have to reflect on your strengths and weaknesses. If the new role would be needing a persona that is proficient in Excel, and you think you might be lacking the skills, it means you would have to work a little harder on mastering it. Or if your goal in life is to be happier, you would have to see what things bring you joy and the things that don’t. Then you would have to analyse the state of your mindset. You have to see where the setbacks are and then slowly but surely work on them for improvement. To have a sense of development you must always be learning and be aware. Aware of the things that you are lacking and learning how to adapt to better approaches and circumstances. 

Nurture your mind and body | Invest in Yourself

For you to achieve what you’ve planned you need to be in the right place and mindset. This means to always check in with yourself. See how you are feeling, what are you eating, how are you moving. Seek the things that bring you joy to have the desire to move with grace in life. Move your body in a way that gives you energy and makes you want to travel the world and back. Nurture your body with the right foods, but also seek a balance. You’ve noticed when you feel good inside and out, you have a new found power that makes you feel like you can conquer everything and everyone. 

Take care of yourself

Take time to properly tend to yourself. Make sure you have a somewhat balance between work and your personal life. Sometimes that line grows thinner and we don’t see how it can affect us over time. Create a self care day for yourself. Where you reflect on the things you’ve done so far. Where you check in with yourself and see what you need to have a more fulfilling life. 

Fuel your hobbies

Sometimes we’re so swept up in our responsibilities that we forget the things that give us pleasure. We forget the hobbies we have. This is a great way to invest in yourself. By doing the things that give you pleasure, your life can be a little easier. Also, it gives you the push to further work on what you want to achieve. Like mixing work with pleasure 😉

You need to set smart goals

This makes your life much easier and it gives you the ability to truly invest in things and in yourself. Seeing exactly what you want to achieve, gives you that drive to work. Your goals need to be attainable, specific, measurable, relevant and time bound. If you decide to work on achieving a promotion, you need to make an action plan. See if the goal is relevant to your values, if it’s specific and align with your wishes. See if it’s attainable, if not see on what you need to work on to make it so. And take note of the time frame, this can help you decide if it’s worth pursuing it or not. Even so, this makes the process of investing and working on yourself, much linear and wholesome. 

Investing in yourself is truly the first step into shaping your future the way you want it. The energy you spend on bettering yourself will bring you closer to your dreams and goals. Making small, continuous improvements enables you to do more and grow more. This brings more positive opportunities and positive long-term changes. To have the motivation and inspiration to keep on this journey browse my blog. I’m sure you’ll find something that resonates with whatever stage you are in your journey. 

I decided to put together this Winter Gift Guide, so you can take a little bit of inspiration and relax knowing that there’s something you can gift to everyone this Christmas 🙂

Usually, many people are overthinking gift making and feel a certain pressure when browsing through endless items. Well, if there’s one thing you should know about me is that I’m quite a good gift maker (if I say this myself haha).

The winter season is magical in every way. From Christmas movies to mulled wine and snowy cities. Honestly, I’ve always loved winter. However, although there are so many reasons to feel energised, sometimes the simple fact that you can’t choose the right gift for those around you can add a certain pressure on you. Usually, many people are overthinking gift making. Well, if there’s one thing you should know about me is that I’m quite a good gift maker (if I say this myself haha).

So, with this Winter Gift Guide, I’m here to help you easily choose a gift and focus on the beauty of the season.

The Recipe for a Perfect Christmas Gift

Before jumping into the content, there are three things you should remember when thinking of the perfect gift:

  • It must come from the heart. If when you look at it, you feel joy and happiness, image how happy the receiver would be.
  • Try to make it personalised or ensure that person absolutely loves the theme of your gift!
  • Never buy a gift just for the sake of buying. Don’t buy something just because it’s Christmas and never say ‘I didn’t know what to get you’. That will totally take away the magic.

1. A Unique Christmas Globe

Everyone loves beautifully decorated Christmas trees. Well, a nice and sincere way to show someone that you’ve thought of them is to buy them a unique Christmas globe. It can have glitter, lights or a picture of you two inside. You can choose such an accessory taking into account the preferences and tastes of the person you want to offer it to. This gift is perfect for those Christmas lovers who never have enough decorations 😉

2. Home slippers

Some fuzzy home slippers are super cute! These UGG ones are so fun: I love the modern elements such as the strap combined with the classic shape. You can buy a gift like this for anyone in your family. I’m sure they’ll fall in love.

3. Wool blanket

Do I need to explain why a wool blanket is a perfect Christmas gift? Well, wool is a very high quality material. Thus, the blanket will be perfect to keep warm, but also to induce a state of absolute comfort. The material is soft and smooth to the touch. Besides, you can find plenty of prints to choose from. Plus, look how beautiful they decorate the sofa!

4. Musician tees

Everyone has a favourite band. So, if you know your loved one has a band he or she loves, I suggest you buy them a musician tee. These types of t-shirts are extremely sought after in 2021. Everyone has one or wants one. I’m sure you can’t go wrong with this one for music lovers!

5. Silk pyjamas

This one’s for the ladies in your life. I’m in love with my silk pyjamas and I’m sure your loved ones will too. The soft fabric makes me feel so feminine and classic. Besides, who doesn’t want to be fashionable even when sleeping? It’s time to make your ladies feel like real queens!

6. Books as collectible items

Books are a classic and great gift idea! After all, that’s why they’re included in this Winter Gift Guide. Hundreds of categories to choose from, dozens of increasingly unique copies.

If your receiver loves Harry Potter for example, you can buy them a premium version of the book. It’s a perfect opportunity for them to re-read it and have a nice collectable item.

All things considered, these are just a few ideas for the perfect Christmas gift. I hope I’ve helped you find your inspiration. After all, the decision is in your hands. If you have any questions or Christmas gift suggestions, feel free to slide in my Instagram DM’s (@notagirlygal).

Until next time,

Miss Andrada


Self improvement is your main ticket to achieving the success you’ve always thrived for. A person who works hard and develops her / his character will also live a fulfilling life. Therefore, if your goal is self improvement you’re on the right track of creating a happier life.

How to start focusing on yourself this Autumn? Read more and start this season with positivity and ambition.

Your Main Focus: Self improvement

Self improvement is when you want to constantly grow and improve your current habits or traits. We’re definitely not perfect, so it’s important to focus on ourselves to achieve our ultimate goals. Make self improvement your main focus this season of change and dare to grow further every single day.

Health should come FIRST

If you want to improve your life, you should first take good care of your health. Considering how the weather can change during Autumn, the risks of getting a cold are pretty high. Drinking herbal hot tea can be a good habit for you.

Tea will help you boost your immune system, can fight against heart diseases and even reduce inflammations. Therefore, a cup of tea everyday will be your best friend during this season of change. Take some time off and just relax while drinking this herbal beverage.

Improve your knowledge

The thirst of knowledge will help you improve different aspects of your life. You can either read books, watch documentaries or even play games. It all depends on how you want to spend your time. As long as you train your mind to seek information, you will always find new things to learn.

It is said that the more you know, you’ll realise that you don’t actually know anything. You don’t know what you don’t know. And I live by that. Every topic in this world will help you at a time. Therefore, this Autumn can be a new start for your self improvement journey.

Start journaling

Journaling is so wonderful. The power of reflection you have when journaling can make you aware of countless things about your daily life. Just sit down and write what you feel in a journal.

There may be things you could never say out loud, but you can write them down to free yourself from them. I’m sure that once you start journaling, it will become a very productive habit for you.

Have a beautiful season ahead, and always remember to focus on yourself! If you ever have any questions or maybe you just feel the need to chat with someone, slide in my Instagram DM’s (@notagirlygal).

Until next time,

Miss Andrada


Travelling in Autumn is so beautiful. Many places can unleash their true magic when the leaves are turning orange, when the streets are busy with people enjoying the last rays of sunshine and when the rain slowly starts to make its way through the cities.

Pack up your bags, book that ticket and make your way to some of the nicest destinations!

1. Paris

During Summer, Paris tends to be very hot and busy – people travel from all over the world to visit the French capital’s museums and city attractions. But these are not the only things that attract them to Paris. It’s also about the unique architecture of the city, the delicious French food and pastries, the chic fashion and the romantic vibe.

There are many reasons why you should visit Paris during Autumn, but the main ones would be the pretty landscape and the overall poetic vibe: the yellow colours and the city’s magnificent architecture go wonderfully well together. Go on a boat ride and admire the beautiful view – you’ll fall in love with the city during this season.

Walks are another way of spending an enchanting Autumn evening in Paris. Take a walk around the city, go on the narrow streets near Sacré-Cœur and wander to Père-Lachaise Cemetery for some spooky memories. You won’t regret it – I find visiting famous cemeteries quite interesting because you get to see how death is being honoured in different cultures. Plus, Oscar Wilde, James Morrison and Frédéric Chopin are buried there.

If walks and cemetery strolls are not your cup of tea, you can head to the Montmartre Grape Harvest Festival (Fête des Vendanges) which takes place from Oct 6 to Oct 10 this year. The festival takes place on the streets where people can take part in concerts, street entertainment, tastings of artisanal and regional products, a dance, walks, visits and much more. I heard there are also some wine auctions you can take part in. If you’re a wine lover like almost every Parisian, this festival’s for you.

2. New York

Concrete jungle where dreams are made of! Well, that’s New York after all! Alicia Keys couldn’t have said it better.

If Paris is the city of love, New York is the city that promises your dreams will come true.

Everything about New York is just spectacular. Arguably Winter would be the perfect season to visit the city, but Autumn New York has its charm too. Just think about it: the perfect weather to be out and about!

New York Fashion Week. If you love Fashion, you’d be happy to find out that you can even buy a ticket to NFW for the open to the public shows. Imagine a beautiful day full of glitz and glam where you can dress just like you walked out of Gossip Girl!

On the flip side, if you like long walks and hikes, the Pelham Bay Park is the right spot for you! Located in The Bronx, this park will enchant you with forests, woodlands, islands, and will give you a chance to enjoy a beautiful Autumn walk.

If you live in Europe, you’re probably going to want to experience the true American Halloween. Choose to be in New York during Halloween and attend New York’s 48th Annual Village Halloween Parade, go to a themed party and have candy ready for trick or treaters – it will be an unforgettable experience for sure.

3. Florence

If you’re looking for the most romantic places to visit, Florence should be your number one place. You’ll not only find romance, but some of the most important events in Europe, great museums and one of a kind landscapes.

The main reason why you should book a flight to Florence in Autumn is the quietness of the city. You’ll finally enjoy Florence’s beauty without all the tourists.

Everyone knows how delicious the Italian cuisine is. But, have you experienced Italian food during Autumn? I mean, it’s a magical experience. Many food festivals are held in Florence during this season. Choose one and enjoy cooking workshops, traditional dishes and last but not least, Tuscan wine!

Many jazz pubs open during Autumn in Italy. Spend one of your evenings in a jazz pub and enjoy some great music.

This might be quite unusual for some, but in 2022, Fortezza da Basso will host the annual Florence Tattoo Convention. Over a hundred of well known tattoo artists will present their beautiful designs and if you have any questions, they will for sure be more than happy to answer them.

4. Hannover

Hannover will be the perfect destination for you if you love parks, beautiful architecture and shopping. I do my best shopping there – the city centre is a gem!

The old town is perfect for a Autumn stroll, so that when you get tired you can stop for a Pretzel and some cocktails!

When the outdoors are getting a little bit too much, you can try some indoors activities. For example, there is an amazing Sea Life that you simply can not miss. You’ll get to see over 2,500 animals from over 160 species.

If you’re looking to do something more unique, you can try to catch one day of the International Fireworks Competition. Next year, it starts in May and it finishes on Sept 17.

5. Barcelona

Oh, Spain! How could you not love Spain? From the music, the romantic atmosphere, the colours and the people, Barcelona is a must visit! The colourful buildings will create an amazing contrast with the nature’s colours during Autumn.

Barcelona is a beautiful city to visit any time of the year. However, in Autumn there are lots of festivals and the weather is great for exploring the outdoors and visiting museums.

From September until the end of November, you can enjoy a concert at the International Jazz Festival. It’s amazing how this city unites people from all over the world with good music and shows.

If a music event is not that appealing to you, from Oct 23 to Oct 24 go to the Architecture Festival – 24h Open House Barcelona. You’ll be able to visit amazing architectural buildings that are not open to the public usually.

End your trip with a delicious picnic in the Ciutadella Park. Enjoy some local goodies and find your peace in the beautiful settings of the park.

All of these cities are unique and spectacular in their very own ways. Take some awesome pictures and tag me (@notagirlygal) so that I can also take part in your journey. Which city is on your bucket list?

Until next time,

Miss Andrada


It’s time to be yourself and start living happily! 🙂 Stay with me to start changing the way you view your current life and explore new ways to experience joy every single day.

First of all, you might be always fed perfect images of happy lives on social media. That’s why, many of us have the impression that this is how everything should be – pretty and pink. Unpleasant things happen to everyone around us. No one can have a constant smile on their lips and no one can lead a “perfect” life. Why? It’s quite simple, these “perfect” lives promoted all over social media are actually made up. Perfection in the true sense of the word does not exist. Because the truth isn’t perfect.

Therefore, you should not be guided by what others WANT to share online. You have to create your own life, with your own rules, your own desires.

In order to achieve the lifestyle you’ve always wanted to lead, you have to learn to love your own self, to take a moment and be grateful for what you are and understand that only you are responsible for your future. As long as you focus on YOU, great things will come your way.


Are you ready to step up your game and live happily? Here’s a quick worksheet for you to use when you feel that your positive view on life somehow vanished, when you can’t see the beauty in the little things and feel unmotivated to go on.

1. Be Happy with Yourself

It’s very important that you are happy with yourself. After all, nobody else lives in your shoes!

YOU will have to put YOU on the first place! Do you think you can do it? It’s not impossible, I promise!

It’s true that it can be challenging to stop trying to please everyone around us. The point is that someone will always be unhappy. It’s totally normal! You can’t be “perfect” for all the people around you! You have to really be perfect for yourself. And how do you do that?

It all starts with accepting your mindset. Once you do what you know is best for you and for the people around you and they’re still not happy, just know, that it’s on them. If your energy is good and comes from a great place and still not appreciated, I’m here to assure you, it’s really not your problem.

2. Find Joy in Every Single Day

The key to living happily is to find joy in the beauty of simple moments. There are so many valuable things that you could be enjoying on a daily basis … all you need is time and energy to do so. If time is your problem, we’re going to look at that in the worksheet and identify ways in which you could be spending more time doing the things you love. Most of the times, the answers are just in front of you. All you need is some headspace to plan your days so that your schedule doesn’t control you, but the other way around 🙂

3. Focus on the present

Although you were also you in the past, you are different in the present. Makes sense, doesn’t it? The point is that maybe you made certain decisions in the past and stuck to them. You keep going back to what you did and keep blaming yourself. Well, it’s time to stop. People grow up, they mature. You may think you’re the same person, but you’re not. Change is constant in your life. With every word spoken, decision made and action taken we and our perceptions change.

It’s time to focus on the present. It is very important to live in the moment! And this is impossible if you live in the past. It’s quite simple really. In order to discover yourself, it is important to be able to live in the present. That’s the bottom line.


It’s time to focus on being yourself and empower yourself to become even happier every single day. After all, life is here to be enjoyed with all the good and the less pleasant things. To live happily, you have to create your own happiness! Download the FREE worksheet to get started 💛

Until next time,

Miss Andrada


A healthy breakfast can positively impact your entire day. If you start your mornings with the right nutrients, you’ll be absolutely amazed by how much energy you’ll enjoy through the day. A healthy breakfast will enlighten your mood, give you an energy boost and might help you become even more productive. Autumn is just around the corner and it’s time to get back to office (or not yet for some countries). So, start your Autumn with great energy from these five healthy breakfast ideas. You’ll honestly get hooked (they’re delish) 😋

1. Strawberry Oatmeal Bowl

You’ve came across this type of breakfast on Instagram, right? If you were wondering if you can do it yourself, trust me, you can. Actually, all you need for the perfect Oatmeal Bowl is: oats and your favourite toppings. For instance, you can choose yogurt or coconut milk (I love to use the latter), different fruits (fresh or dried), nuts (especially almonds) or peanut butter. It’s literally up to you! Just ensure you keep the balance right between the nuts and fruits – nuts have loads of calories and fruits have loads of sugar.

Oatmeal Bowls used to be my go to when I’d have to be in the office by 9am in London. I tend to go for them now too, if you follow me on Instagram, you’ve probably watched my morning stories and know what I’m talking about.

2. Breakfast Tacos, anyone?

Have you ever tried tacos for breakfast? 😉 This is the type of dish that requires you to prepare it in the evening and store it in the fridge until the next morning. It takes a little bit of organisational skill on your side, but it’s a delicious healthy breakfast option. The filling is quite simple to make actually: steam some veggies, cook the meat in a separate pan and bring them together.

If you’re feeling like you need an extra kick, spend an extra 15 minutes and prepare a nice dip – avocado, cheese, salsa or cilantro go quite well with tacos. It’s an even healthier alternative than oats because you’ll get the right nutrients when you start your day and you won’t feel the need to snack in between meals.

3. Bruschetta

Bruschetta is easy and quite fast to make. First, you’ll have to toast a few slices of grain bread. Then, you can start playing with your favourite toppings. You can start with fresh cream cheese, then you can add raw veggies all over. I like to mix green salad, cherry tomatoes, cucumber, avocado and sweet paprika. My favourite one is Mozzarella & Cherry Tomatoes and basil on top. Yummy!

4. Avocado Toast & Eggs

Avo Toast & Eggs is so delicious! You can quickly prepare this in the morning by toasting a slice of grain bread and poaching two eggs. Then, you have to slice your avocado and start putting the dish together. I like to eat this in the morning because beside the proteins they have, eggs are a good source of nutrients such as vitamin D.

5. Blueberry Smoothie

Smoothies are a great source of vitamins and a great option for breakfast. They’ll energise you in seconds. And this recipe is incredibly easy. All you have to do is blend 250g of blueberries, a teaspoon of peanut butter, soy milk and honey all together. It’s super fast and you can even take it on your commute. Add a rice cake to it as well for a small source of carbs, so you won’t feel super hungry after an hour.

All things considered, it’s amazing to start your day with a healthy breakfast. It will set the tone for the day. Slide in my Instagram DM’s (@notagirlygal) and let me know which is your favourite healthy breakfast recipe and why? Can’t wait to hear all of your answers 🙂

Until next time,

Miss Andrada


Here I am, sharing my story on “how to be your own boss ”. Everything really started in high school when I first realised I hated being bossed around. I loved playing by my very own rules. I’ve always been allowed to think for myself and to set my very own boundaries. With my head on my shoulders, I knew how to tell apart what is wrong and right from a young age. I believed I knew better what’s right for me, however I always loved to learn from other people’s experiences and to gain knowledge.

Being able to discuss and to understand everything that was happening around me was one of my number one priorities. You know what they say – “ Knowledge is power “.

Anyways, let’s continue with this story because I hope it will inspire some of you too.

Uni Andrada ?!

If you don’t build your own dreams someone will hire you to build theirs.

Tony Gaskins

Years passed and I went to uni. I absolutely loved being independent. Even if the first year was pretty hard considering I moved from my own country to the UK, I tried to stay optimistic. I realised I wanted to do something big with my life. Here comes the learning part. I’ve been studying so much in high school and I was very disciplined. I remember just before my Baccalaureate exam that everyone would go out and have fun, but there I was: at home with my books. I felt like an absolute joke whilst others were living their lives. But let me tell you know: that taught me discipline and respect for myself (and for my future).

In uni, I really took every opportunity that was given to me. Many doors opened and I met lots of amazing people. I like to believe that I learned so much from their experiences. Considering I was very sociable, I always loved to interact and to learn more.

I had a few jobs during uni and I literally worked just to gain real world experience in marketing. I wanted to achieve something great and to do my very best. After all, working hard & smart is so important in order to be your own boss.

After uni?

Think big and don’t listen to people who tell you it can’t be done. Life’s too short to think small.

Tim Ferriss

Here comes the more challenging part. I knew that when uni was about to finish that my life will become a little bit harder. I had a job and I was literally so focused on it. I was friends with mostly all of my colleagues and I was giving everything to THE job. You know, I believe that when you engage in something, it’s so important to do your best. I am a hard working person and I never waited for things to come to me by themselves.

Even if my office was a bit far from my flat (about 1h commute), I enjoyed going to work and living my young adult life. It was so new and pleasing for me – getting of at Holborn on a busy Monday morning had its charm.

However, even if I absolutely loved what I did and I made great memories working in agencies and corporations, I realised I just wanted more.

A little bit more

Without ambition one starts nothing. Without work one finishes nothing. The prize will not be sent to you. You have to win it.

Ralph Waldo Emerson

I wanted to make my own rules, set my own limits and to go bigger. After all, I’ve always been a dreamer. That’s when I realised the whole “ be your own boss “ concept. I wanted to work from anywhere. I wanted to travel the world and to make work much more enjoyable. It just seemed IMPOSSIBLE at that time. I was working pay check to pay check, how can I go out?

Therefore, I started focusing on my personal career. And trust me, it was the right thing to do.

Yes, it was exhausting at first. Yes, you also have lots of challenges on the way. Yes, you never really know if you are going to succeed or not. However, perseverance is the most important trait you’ll need.

Just do it

The secret of getting ahead is getting started.

Mark Twain

Well, this is the most important point I wanted to discuss with you today. Even if everyone tells you it’s hard and that you won’t succeed, just do it. If you needed a little motivation, you are in the right place.

Trust me, if you surround yourself with people who believe in you and if YOU believe in yourself you are invincible. Quit your job at the right time (and when you have a bit of proof that your idea will work) and be your own boss. Put in action that idea of yours and just go for it.

Being able to decide for yourself and to create the lifestyle you’ve always wanted in your work place is amazing. You only have one life and you’ll need to work some good parts of it. Why not make it amazing?

I’ve heard lots of times that I’m a “workaholic”. No, I’m not. I’m just passionate. I love what I do and I trust myself that I can even go bigger than this.

Believing in your own forces and being confident are the things you’ll need to do!

I wrote this article in order to let you guys know that it’s possible if you really go for it. You know, life can really be scary at times. However, you at least need to try to sculpt life just the way you want it to. This is me now, working from all around the world, owning my own marketing agency!

How to be your own boss? How to create a life you love? The road is paved with loooots of challenges. However, you can find ALL my secrets and pieces of advice in my book below that is currently on sale:

I really hope you enjoyed reading my story and getting to know me better. I hope you found a oasis of peace and also inspiration whilst doing so.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada


I absolutely love writing women empowerment blogs, therefore this blog is dedicated to all my ladies out there who are afraid to go out alone. You might overthink the situation itself a lot, but it’s not that complicated at all! From time to time, people need to spend some quality time with themselves only. Therefore, going on a date with yourself is a wonderful idea.

I must admit that I was also quite anxious when I first tried it. I felt like everybody was watching me, I wanted to spend time on my phone and I felt a bit uncomfortable just because I was worrying too much. In real life, nobody actually cares why are you dining alone. Everyone is just minding their businesses. Everything is in your head.

The benefits

Going out alone will help you clear your thoughts. After a hard week at work, you might need some quiet time. This type of “date” is actually an amazing form of relaxation. You get to focus on the people around you, to actually listen to the music at the restaurant and to enjoy the simple thought of existing.

While you are on your date, you can enjoy a pause from your real life. As funny and silly as it sounds, it’s the perfect time to romanticise your life. Being able to feel like the main character is really empowering. After you’ve finished for the day, your confidence will increase significantly.

Also, this exercise is the perfect way to finish a week. This type of relaxation will help you gain your energy back. You will do amazing on your next week.

How to prepare?

Well, dress up as good as you would if you were to go on a real date. Put on some makeup and chose a nice, elegant outfit. Treat yourself like the goddess you are. You can even try some pampering before getting ready.

Also, if you’re going to romanticise your life at this level, put some of your favourite music on while you’re getting ready. I absolutely love to take care of myself while listening to my favourite jams.

I think it’s so important to focus on ourselves when we feel like it. After all, if we don’t love ourselves, how could others? Our bodies are our temples, and we must take care of them!

How to spend your time?

This women empowerment “date” thing is truly amazing. But how do you spend your time? Well, here’s how I see it. You can walk to the place you’d like to dine in. Maybe you can choose a terrace in order to also enjoy the landscape. You find a table to sit down at and order your favourite drink. A glass of wine goes perfectly in my opinion. Try to avoid spending time on your phone and enjoy how alive everyone is. Pay attention to the things you never do such as how nice the waitress is, how good the food tastes or how much you might like the music. Enjoy the atmosphere and clear your mind for a bit.

After some time focusing on everything around you, start focusing on yourself. You can think about how your week went. Rearrange your thoughts and clear some stuff out. Spend your time doing something productive for your mind. You can even make an imaginary list of thigs you’ll have to do or work on.

Me, myself and I?

That’s right. As I said before, even if you might be a little anxious in the first place, trust me: no one actually cares why are you alone! No one actually stares at you and no one judges. It’s all happening because going out alone is not something you usually do. These negative feelings will pass as soon as you start relaxing a bit. You’ll see.

After all, if someone really is looking at you: trust me, it’s because they can appreciate your courage to go on a date with yourself.

In the end, it really takes some guts to dress up and go dine alone. But who cares? It’s important to spend quality time with yourself. Especially considering how agglomerated your work days are. Focus on your own problems and interests.

After a night out like this, you’ll realise how relaxing spending time alone is.

I hope you liked this women empowerment blog. Have you ever tried going out alone? How did you feel about it? Slide into my Instagram dm’s ( @notagirlygal ) and let me know.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

Here are the best lifestyle tips I know about travelling! If want to reinvent the way you’re travelling, keep on reading. Take this as your personal ambition. If you know how to travel correctly, you’ll get the chance to relax, have fun and discover new incredible things.

It might seem quite hard at first. How could you have time for everything in only 5 days of “freedom”? Well, I’ve written this article in order to help you. Continue reading to uncover some of my best kept secrets of travelling.

1. An unexpected journey

If you really want an authentic holiday, stop looking for popular places that everyone seems to visit. If you already know how the city exactly looks like and you’ve seen many many pictures of people in the same place, where’s the mystery?

For instance, you can chose your next travelling place according to the activities you enjoy the most and avoiding the hype. If you like parties, don’t go to Ibiza, maybe you can try Zrce Beach in Croatia. There are alternatives for everything.

You shouldn’t believe everything the media says. Maybe you’ll like other places much more.

2. Get lost??

Well, you can try this little game while visiting. Have a walk whilst at the destination. However, don’t use direction apps. Just go with the flow and get lost. This way, you’ll be able to visit so many beautiful corners of the city. From cute neighbourhoods to huge parks and gorgeous cafes. Sometimes, being too organised won’t improve your holiday experience, but on the contrary.

3. Up in the morning

Well, if you want to have time for everything, you should try to wake up just a bit early in the morning. This way, you’re not wasting time and your day will be much more productive. You can have breakfast and then head out to visit. Spend your day doing interactive things and have some fun in the evening. Maybe once your day is over, you can head to a bar and enjoy the traditional music and party culture from that specific country.

4. Don’t be shy, try some food

One of my favourite lifestyle tips is to try every types of food you might encounter. If you’re visiting a new country or even city, don’t just order something you’ve already had before. Try traditional food without hesitation and discover that country’s culture. It’s so beautiful to respect the values and traditions of the place you’re visiting. Not only you will improve your experience, but you will also discover new tastes and aromas. Who knows?! Maybe they’ll become part of your menu from now on!

5. Respect is key

When you travel to a new country or city, you’ll have to respect the people’s faith, traditions and way of thinking. They might not be like you, but there shouldn’t be place for judgement. You are visiting their home, therefore you shouldn’t only respect them but their country too! Also, if you want to, it’d be nice if you learn a few words or sentences in their language before heading there.

6. A cultural trip

Take a few days from your holiday and use them only for embracing a new culture. Visit museums and understand the history of the place you’ve visited. It’s important to know about a country’s past in order to understand where its situated in the present. You’ll leave wiser, more educated and you’ll be able to fully understand the concept of that specific country.

7. Take photos but…

It’s important to make memories and to capture them by taking some photos. However, don’t spend your whole vacation with a smart phone in your hand, trying to find the perfect angle for your pictures. Sometimes, the best pictures of the things we see always remain in our minds. Enjoy the little moments you have there and from time to time, when you feel like it, take some pics. You can print them when you get home and create a wonderful photo album with all of your experiences.

All things considered, it’s not that hard to improve your way of travelling after all. All you need is to follow some of these lifestyle tips. Right?! If you really want to make your next holiday as authentic as you can, trust me: You can do it! Follow these steps and change your travelling game completely. Also, feel free to slide in my DM’s (@notagirlygal) if you have other good techniques that can improve our next holidays!

Until next time,

Miss Andrada


Stop trying to please everyone and find out 5 mistakes you make while being a people-pleasing person.

If you want to please everyone, there are probably mistakes that you’re doing right now that negatively impact your life. Besides learning how to stop pleasing everyone, in today’s article you’ll find out the 5 mistakes you’re currently making when you’re trying to please those around you.

Mistake #1: You’re putting yourself on the second place

Many times in our lives as humans we let ourselves influenced by others emotions, actions and happenings. Sometimes by wanting to be kind we put ourselves on the second place, just to make someone feel better or just to help. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be by your loved ones side, but most of the times you must realise that YOU own the most important place in your heart. Therefore, for you to be the best version of yourself, you must find yourself and realise that if you want to be good to others you first must be good to you.

However, putting yourself on the second place is a mistake that everyone of us has made at least once. There comes the question: How do we fix this?

Understand that in order for you to lead a happy life, you have to allow yourself full priority. You should always come first because friendships or relationships should not be about sacrificing on a daily basis. There are situations of course when we all sacrifice something for our friends when we feel we need to, however it shouldn’t be common practice.

If you put yourself on the first place, you will be happier and ready to offer even more of yourself to your loved ones. You won’t feel you ever regret something that you did for them because it came from a place of being equal to them in that situation.

Mistake #2: You’re not dedicating enough time for your own growth

You are not selfish if you refuse someone just because you want to have time for yourself. I have learned from my experience that it is best for me if I stop trying to please everyone.

Firstly, if you always say “yes” people will take your time and you won’t be able to focus on your own growth. After all, we need time to focus on our goals, emotions and moreover, we have to relax from time to time. Working 24/7 is extremely overwhelming for everyone and it is even hard to find time to spend with our families. By accepting to help and please everyone around you, not only you consume yourself, but also you won’t have time or you you will be too tired to celebrate your own achievements.

Therefore, you might ask yourself : How can I stop trying to please everyone?

Your answer stands in the two Fs I created for you :

  • Focus on yourself

Firstly, you must take into consideration my first piece of advice: put yourself on the first place. Think about your goals and how to achieve them. Find the time that you need in order to put all of your thoughts together. Breathe in, breathe out and fill yourself with confidence. Moreover, you must realise that once you focus on your needs, you will be able to help others too.

  • Find yourself

The second step in my two Fs theory is to find yourself. Once you focused on what made you feel accomplished it is time to discover ways to make everything work. Once you unleashed what the best version of you looks like it is now time to create it. Find your inner peace and make time for YOU! Become aware of your own internal world, and make a change. At the end of the day, if you still find time for others, go for it! Being kind always made an impact on one’s life.

Mistake #3: You feel like you’re running a marathon

Another thing you should consider while you stop trying to please everyone is how energy consuming is this people-pleasing marathon.

In reality, you’re not pleasing everyone because it’s impossible. You might be feeling like running a marathon because all of your efforts might be in vain at the end. After all, you over-function in your relationships when you do too much for others, which eventually causes others to under-function. While your motives are fine, they might eventually undermine your relationships’ overall effectiveness.

If you want to stop feeling tired, try to understand that you will not please everyone. Ever. You should preserve your time and energy. Moreover, you should start functioning for yourself and realise that the only thoughts and feelings that you can change are your own.

Mistake #4: You feel unhappy and always questioning your ability to please others

When you are trying to stop pleasing everyone you will realise how much unhappiness these actions bought you.

When we do a favour to someone or when we just try to help them with something, we might start overthinking our ability to please others. “Have I done enough?”, “Maybe I should help them more” are examples of thoughts that come into our mind immediately after helping others out. These dark thoughts only harm us and make us start questioning ourselves. Feeling unhappy and not sure if your friends are pleased with you are overwhelming sentiments and emotions, but I will help you as much as I can with a piece of advice.

Here’s how to fix this: If you always question your ability to please others, it means that you’re always worried that they will be upset. This comes from your insecurities. When you’re unsure, your life becomes quite a mess. Build up your confidence and realise that you tried, realise that even the smallest of deeds matter. As soon as you start believing in yourself, this overwhelming and overthinking problem shall stop.

Mistake #5: You concentrate on all of the things they haven’t done for you

If you’re doing too much, it’s human nature to expect something back, maybe equal or less impressive. It’s quite a destructive mindset which can be controlled, but usually the more things you do, the more expectations you’ll have, maybe without realising this.

Here’s how to stop pleasing everyone and focus on yourself: always remember that when you did something good, you did because you really wanted to. You didn’t sacrifice yourself or your time to do so. It’s important that you realise that no one is asking you to sacrifice yourself for them. It’s just you who is thinking that way.

All things considered, what was the biggest mistake you made while trying to please everyone? And how would you fix it?