It’s not that hard to make considerable steps into your self development journey. Actually, working on your communication skills will help you become the best version of yourself. After a hard pandemic year, everyone forgot how important socialising truly is. You might’ve stopped seeing your friends and it got harder to get back to normal. However, once you succeed getting rid of your anxiety, things will get much more easier.
It’s important to improve your communication skills in order to build bridges, to learn from others experiences and also, as a source of entertainment . There are many reasons that’ll make you consider improving this trait. Let me share my secrets with you.
1. Be an active listener
How ironic it is, in order to advance in your communication skills, you’ll first have to be a good listener. An effective communicator is always paying attention to the conversation and to the things the others are saying.
If you feel too anxious to enter the conversation, this exercise is perfect for you. Listen to the conversation and think about answers in your head. However, you should try not to zone out. Even if you’re not as talkative as the others, everyone will appreciate if you pay respect to their conversation and listen.
Also, you can try to show the people around you that you understand, agree or disagree with them through facial expressions and gestures. You can nod your head every time you agree with someone, look curious when you are waiting to hear more about a conversation etc… Your face and gestures will communicate for you and help you engage into the conversation without actually talking .
2. About emotions
If you are an emotive person you might feel too anxious to fully express your point of view. You could try focusing on something else. Every time you feel like sinking, focus on your breath. You can even count every breath of air you take. You will calm down and be able to join the conversation again. However, you should keep it simple and short until you’re comfortable enough. After you feel like yourself again, you can try using longer phrases and expressing yourself freely.
It’s important to remember that everyone feels anxious from time to time. It’s a normal emotion. You shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself. Just work to become the best version of yourself. Your self development journey won’t be easy, but it’s amazing to see how far you’ve come.
Ask your friends for some feedback. They’ll help you realise your communication flaws and imperfections. You should ask them for a sincere response. Also, don’t forget that negative feedbacks are also really helpful. This way, you’ll get the chance to improve and work on the things you haven’t noticed by now.
Being aware of how others perceive your way of socialising will have a great impact on your self development journey.
Moreover, if the feedbacks are positive you’ll get an instant confidence boost. You’ll realise that you are enough and that you’re making progress. Oh, how could I’ve forgot! Progress!!! You should also celebrate every step you take in the right path! You deserve it!
4. Don’t talk over other people
It’s important to respect every member of the conversation. Even if you’re disagreeing with someone, let them finish their phrase and then you’ll also get the chance to express yourself. I agree that in some situations it’s quite hard not to interrupt someone. However, everyone should be allowed to finish their point of view. I believe you don’t like being interrupted as well.
If you want to add something, the rule stays the same. After the person speaking finishes you can simply say : “ I’d like to add that (…) “. The conversation will flow better and will be much more intelligible.
People these days somehow forgot about this amazing form of showing respect, even if it’s a great way to improve your communication skills.
5. Eye contact
When you are having a conversation it’s important to make eye contact with the person speaking. This way, you will show them that you’re paying attention to what they’re saying. Moreover, this “exercise” will also help you understand that person at another level. People tend to express their emotions and feeling through facial expressions. If you maintain eye contact, you’ll fully understand what are that persons feelings, thoughts and emotions.
In addition, you’ll pay respect to them and you’ll also show your engagement to the conversation.
Being able to communicate is amazing. Therefore, you should be constantly looking into how to improve your skills. By socialising we meet people, create relationships, make an impression about ourselves and also prove our points. It’s important to master this skill in order to go on with your self development journey.
Which is your secret in improving your communication skills? Slide in my Instagram DM’s ( @notagirlygal ) and let me know.
Until next time,