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Do you feel that your success is actually a fraud? That you don’t really deserve all the things you’ve achieved? Many people who have succeeded in life, either suddenly or have worked hard for success, end up blaming themselves and believing that they didn’t actually deserve it.

If you feel you fall into this category, this article is for you. It’s time to realise that you actually deserve all the good things in your life: your career, your relationships, the love you’re receiving. Instead of blaming yourself, you should be grateful for everything you’re currently enjoying.

Now, what I need you to do is just sit down. Pour yourself a glass of fresh water and let’s go through this article together. Focus and get ready feel less anxious and proud of your accomplishments.

Confess

“I still have a little impostor syndrome… It doesn’t go away, that feeling that you shouldn’t take me that seriously. What do I know? I share that with you because we all have doubts in our abilities, about our power and what that power is.”

Michele Obama

Fess’ up! It’s time to say what’s on your mind. One of the reasons you feel overwhelmed and guilty is because you’re going through them on your own. Instead, talk to your loved ones and tell them how you feel. Once you do that, you’ll realise how silly you sound! The imposter syndrome is not an easy one. It comes with a lot of guilt. That’s why you need to talk about it to overcome it.

Think positive

“Be humble. Not knowing something doesn’t make you a fraud, it makes you a student.”

Marie Forleo

Negativity has never helped. In a world as harsh as the one we live in, you have to think positively in order to evolve. Look on the bright side. If you were the person who succeeded, it doesn’t mean you took away the chance from someone who may deserve it more. You need to exploit your work and prove to yourself that you are the right person for the job.

Success is not easy, you will meet jealous people who will make you feel like an imposter. Stereotypes often arise such as: “Surely he had relationships so he could reach such a high rank”. Don’t feel overwhelmed, feel proud. You know what the truth is and you don’t have to let anyone else tell you otherwise. Surround yourself with like-minded people who can rejoice in your achievements. Put aside the negativity and hate in your life and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.

You are not perfect

“You don’t have to be an expert. No one is expecting you to be an expert. All you need to do is show up and be you”

Ruth Soukup

The imposter syndrome often triggers because you feel you have to be perfect to achieve success. However, this is far from the truth. Perfection is an impossible thing that no one can have. It’s normal to not know what to say or how to act in different situations. So, if you’re ever put in a situation where you don’t know what to do, don’t think you are not good enough. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone has doubts. You can ask for advice or learn from the people around you. Besides, it’s important to admit to yourself that you’re not the best at everything. For example, there are people who have superior writing skills but are afraid to speak in public. That doesn’t mean they don’t have the words, just that they aren’t necessarily good in a particular field. This can be overcome with good advice, exercise and determination.

“True impostors don’t have this feeling” -Dr. Albers

It is indeed a fact that real imposters do not have this syndrome. Remember that 90% of intelligent people with a high success rate deal with this syndrome. So if you have realised that you fall into the group of people who have to deal with imposter syndrome, you are a person who has all of the above. You are a hardworking, perfectionist person who often cannot take credit for what you do. It is not a bad thing to be humble, however you should not load yourself with such negative energies.

So, if you need a reminder that you deserve everything you have achieved so far, go back in time and go through all the things you have done to achieve success. That’s how you’ll realise that you actually deserve everything that happens to you.

Therapy

Perhaps it seems to you that only people with a serious problem talk to therapists. Well, it’s not real at all. Everyone needs a licensed, non-subjective person to talk to from time to time. I should mention that when it comes to the imposter syndrome, advice from a professional is much more recommended than advice from a friend.

A therapist will find an innovative and intelligent method to help you overcome your problems. They will never judge you and will make you understand in a split second that you really have nothing to feel guilty about.

That’s why I personally suggest everyone around me to book a session with a therapist from time to time and talk about certain issues.

All things considered, you don’t have to feel guilty about having achieved great things. On the contrary, be proud of your success and help others to rise with you. You can follow any or all of these tips. The decision is in your hands. In the end, all I wish for you is that you make it through this bump in your life and realise how unique you are. If you still have questions or maybe just want to chat with someone, slide into my Instagram DM’s (@notagirlygal).

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

It’s not that hard to make considerable steps into your self development journey. Actually, working on your communication skills will help you become the best version of yourself. After a hard pandemic year, everyone forgot how important socialising truly is. You might’ve stopped seeing your friends and it got harder to get back to normal. However, once you succeed getting rid of your anxiety, things will get much more easier.

It’s important to improve your communication skills in order to build bridges, to learn from others experiences and also, as a source of entertainment . There are many reasons that’ll make you consider improving this trait. Let me share my secrets with you.

1. Be an active listener

How ironic it is, in order to advance in your communication skills, you’ll first have to be a good listener. An effective communicator is always paying attention to the conversation and to the things the others are saying.

If you feel too anxious to enter the conversation, this exercise is perfect for you. Listen to the conversation and think about answers in your head. However, you should try not to zone out. Even if you’re not as talkative as the others, everyone will appreciate if you pay respect to their conversation and listen.

Also, you can try to show the people around you that you understand, agree or disagree with them through facial expressions and gestures. You can nod your head every time you agree with someone, look curious when you are waiting to hear more about a conversation etc… Your face and gestures will communicate for you and help you engage into the conversation without actually talking .

2. About emotions

If you are an emotive person you might feel too anxious to fully express your point of view. You could try focusing on something else. Every time you feel like sinking, focus on your breath. You can even count every breath of air you take. You will calm down and be able to join the conversation again. However, you should keep it simple and short until you’re comfortable enough. After you feel like yourself again, you can try using longer phrases and expressing yourself freely.

It’s important to remember that everyone feels anxious from time to time. It’s a normal emotion. You shouldn’t be ashamed of yourself. Just work to become the best version of yourself. Your self development journey won’t be easy, but it’s amazing to see how far you’ve come.

3. Feedback?

Ask your friends for some feedback. They’ll help you realise your communication flaws and imperfections. You should ask them for a sincere response. Also, don’t forget that negative feedbacks are also really helpful. This way, you’ll get the chance to improve and work on the things you haven’t noticed by now.

Being aware of how others perceive your way of socialising will have a great impact on your self development journey.

Moreover, if the feedbacks are positive you’ll get an instant confidence boost. You’ll realise that you are enough and that you’re making progress. Oh, how could I’ve forgot! Progress!!! You should also celebrate every step you take in the right path! You deserve it!

4. Don’t talk over other people

It’s important to respect every member of the conversation. Even if you’re disagreeing with someone, let them finish their phrase and then you’ll also get the chance to express yourself. I agree that in some situations it’s quite hard not to interrupt someone. However, everyone should be allowed to finish their point of view. I believe you don’t like being interrupted as well.

If you want to add something, the rule stays the same. After the person speaking finishes you can simply say : “ I’d like to add that (…) “. The conversation will flow better and will be much more intelligible.

People these days somehow forgot about this amazing form of showing respect, even if it’s a great way to improve your communication skills.

5. Eye contact

When you are having a conversation it’s important to make eye contact with the person speaking. This way, you will show them that you’re paying attention to what they’re saying. Moreover, this “exercise” will also help you understand that person at another level. People tend to express their emotions and feeling through facial expressions. If you maintain eye contact, you’ll fully understand what are that persons feelings, thoughts and emotions.

In addition, you’ll pay respect to them and you’ll also show your engagement to the conversation.

Being able to communicate is amazing. Therefore, you should be constantly looking into how to improve your skills. By socialising we meet people, create relationships, make an impression about ourselves and also prove our points. It’s important to master this skill in order to go on with your self development journey.

Which is your secret in improving your communication skills? Slide in my Instagram DM’s ( @notagirlygal ) and let me know.

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Women empowerment has been on my lips so much recently. I truly want to empower you all lovely women to become the best version of yourselves. Therefore, here I am with another inspiring article on how to stay motivated during Summer. It’s quite hard to focus on your goals when the weather is so inviting, your friends are always hanging out and you just can’t feel like working. However, there are tasks that need to be done and no one will help you achieve your goals besides yourself.

Of course it’s hard, but if you want to reach success you’ll have to set your priorities straight and work on your time management. Enjoy every second of spare time and work as hard as in every other season. You can do it! It gets easier with time, trust me.

If you want to learn 5 tips on how to stay motivated during Summer right NOW continue reading and follow the steps below:

1. Time management

No one said you can’t take breaks. Actually, breaks are also very productive and will help you increase your level of performance. However, you can’t live from break to break. Make up a clear schedule on how you want your days to look like and stick to it. For example:

– Wake up early and work from 8:00am to 12:00pm. After that, you can enjoy a lunch break at your favourite restaurant. If you don’t fancy going on your own, invite one of your friends or your significant other.

– Then you can work from 2pm to 4pm and have a short coffee break at the end of the session.

– Then, do the last tasks from 5pm to 7pm, and now you have your evening free. Not only you’ve worked 8 hours without realising, but you’ve also finished your tasks in time in order to enjoy the rest of the day. You can head to the city, relax, take a walk, do literally anything you want. Moreover, given the high temperatures in Summer, you can’t even go outside before 6pm if you’re not heading to the pool.

2. Change your work space

If you have to work on a project and the weather is way too inviting, don’t stay inside. Change the atmosphere and romanticise your life! Set up a nice and quiet place outside and leave the desk behind. You’ll do two things at once. Moreover, your dose of creativity will increase because you’re feeling happier and your project can have a more successful result. If you feel like you’re stuck inside, go outside! Do everything you can to be as productive as possible. Reach your full potential!

3. Reward yourself!

After a hard day of work, reward yourself! You should never forget to thank yourself for all of the hard work you’ve done in order to achieve your dreams. You can reward yourself with your favourite food, with wine, a day at the spa or even a night out. It’s completely up to you but it’s also necessary. You are a human being after all, don’t forget about the simple pleasures in life. They are as much as important as achieving your goals.

4. Surround yourself with positive people

The environment you’re living in has a great effect on your motivation. Surround yourself with people who care about you and your well-being. This way, if they know you have work to do, they won’t pressure you in delaying your schedule just to hang out. Also, if the people around you have also similar priorities, you’ll be able to motivate each other. This step is all about women empowerment. You’ll have to empower the ladies around you to go after their dreams. All of you can hang out during the weekends or during your days off. If you know how to arrange your schedule, you’ll have time for anything.

5. Love yourself

In order to respect your work and your journey, you’ll first have to love yourself. As I said many times before, YOU are unique in this world. Moreover, you should be your no. 1 priority. Learn how to love yourself with simple exercises such as: writing down five things you love about yourself everyday. You will help your brain realise how great you really are. Also, another practical thing would be to read a few women empowerment quotes every day in the morning. Start your day fresh and confident. Don’t let yourself down and start achieving those goals.

6. Hobbies and passions

It’s proven that hobbies and passions will increase your creativity and your desire to start achieving your goals. Therefore, if painting relaxes you and helps you with your imagination, do it! You should do it as often as you can. It’s so important to make time for our passions. At the end of the day you’ll be much more relaxed and ready to work hard.

All things considered, I hope that this women empowerment article helps you stay motivated during the Summer 2021. Let’s lift each other up this season – send me a DM on my Instagram account (@notagirlygal) and let me know your best tips for staying motivated!

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Here are 10 entrepreneurial women to watch in 2021. Their backgrounds are truly inspirational holding impressive stories behind them. Every single one of these powerful women below has achieved success by working hard and dreaming big.

Isn’t it everyone’s dream to achieve their greatest goals and be considered very successful in their niche? Well, these great women have DONE it. Follow their lead and watch them in 2021! Start your journey to success now.

1. Maria Hatzistefanis

Maria Hatzistefanis was one of the beauty bloggers that evolved into being a Multi Million Beauty Brand CEO by working hard and dreaming as big as possible. She put together the bases of Rodial after moving to NYC and being a beauty blogger. Her company was founded in 1999 and is being considered one of the best in the skin care niche. This amazing woman will introduce you to the dramas and glamour of the beauty and fashion world like no other. She is also well known for her sincere pieces of advice and her incredible actions. Her greatest achievement really is seeing all of her hard work coming together. However, she is extremely proud of her success in makeup.

2. Sophia Armoruso

Sophia Armoruso is not only a successful American businesswoman, but also one to be followed. She started her journey while working as a security guard and opened and online beauty store on ebay. It’s funny that the first vintage item she sold was a book stolen in her teenage years. She worked from her bedroom every day until her store Nasty Gal Vintage finally became a 100 million dollar yearly revenue business. Sophia always stated that no matter how popular you used to be in high school, you can achieve your dreams if you have faith and work hard.

3. Abigail Johnson

Abigail Johnson is an American billionaire businesswoman worth following! From all the entrepreneurial women all over the world, she differs by being THE chairman, CEO and president of Fidelity Investments. After many years of hard work under her father’s careful watch, Abigail became one of the most important women in the financial domain. Only imagine that firstly, she used to be an intern at Fidelity! It’s amazing to see how ambitious and hard-working Abigail was and still is.

4. Mackenzie Scott

Mackenzie Scott proves every woman that you can still achieve success while rising three kids and helping Jeff Bezos build Amazon. Wow, right?! She is an American Novelist that wrote her first book : “ The Testing of Luther Albright” in 10 years. While working hard to put the bases of Amazon, she still had to pay the bills at home and make time for the three little souls she was rising. After Amazon became a success, she dedicated her time for the family and her literary career.

5. Marina de Giovanni

Marina de Giovanni gained massive popularity for her Not a Model site where she shared her lifestyle and fashion pieces of advice. She is one of the most famous bloggers on earth and probably the first influencer to appear. Marina left her job as an event manager in 2013 while during a six month vacation in Europe when she decided to start blogging. She build her empire from scratch and now at only 31 years old she has an audience of over 160,000 followers and lives from her online courses!

6. Sara Blakely

Sara Blakely is one of the most influential entrepreneurial women on earth. Also, she was listed as the 93rd most powerful woman by Forbes. Sara is the founder of Spanx, an apparel company selling leggings and pants. Even if she planned to become an attorney she created Spanx and handled all the aspects of the business itself. In 2012 she first made her appearance on the cover of the Forbes Magazine as the youngest self-made female billionaire. Quite inspiring right?

7. Huda Kattan

I believe everyone heard at least once about Huda Beauty and its CEO and founder Huda Kattan. In 2006 she moved to Dubai with her father and later on she decided to move to LA to study makeup. Huda also gained popularity through instagram, where she now has more than 47 million followers. She is one of the most powerful and successful influencers. Moreover, she is also one of the most influential people in the beauty niche. She has an inspiring background and she worked hard to improve the beauty industry.

8. Sheryl Sandberg

Sheryl Sandberg is the chief Operating Officer of Facebook. After she graduated from business school, Sheryl worked as a management consultant. After a few years she joined Google where she was very helpful. Later on she started her career at Facebook and was considered the perfect fit. Her net worth is now over 1,8 billion dollars and she is considered one of the most important entrepreneurial women.

9. Indra Nooyi

Indra Nooyi is the chief executive of PepsiCo. Moreover she is also ranked as one of the most powerful women in the world. Indra firstly held a product manager position at Johnson and Johnson. Later, she joined PepsiCo in 1994. In 2006 she was finally named CEO. Apparently, Nooyi wasn’t only named on this list as a woman to watch, but on Wallstreet’s Journal and many other publications. You will find her journey inspiring and full of ambition. Listen to her pieces of advice and start working hard in order to achieve your dreams.

10. Gina Rinehart

Gina Rinehart in Australian Magnate and heiress. Moreover, she is the executive chairman of Hancock Prospecting. Gina became a billionaire in 2006 and her net worth at the moment is 30.4 Billion US Dollars. She is one of the best in her industry. She knew how to take advantage of her skills and inheritance. After some time she truly built her empire and revolutionary changed the game.

In the end, every single one of these entrepreneurial women did amazing things throughout their lives. All of their stories are worth listening to and moreover, you have the chance to learn a lot from their mistakes and achievements. Which successful woman had an impact on your life and why? Let me know!

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO