There are so many reasons why expectations ruin your progress. Expectations are what you think will happen in a certain situation. However, reality hits us hard sometimes. Some expectations can be good as they can help you overcome certain obstacles and chase your dreams, but others can be very unrealistic and they can create frustration, misunderstandings and more. If you are too attached to expectations can prevent you from seeing the reality as it is. This keeps you from taking certain actions or making certain decisions that can be in your best interest.
Constantly hoping for better circumstances is a sign of not appreciating what you currently have. You could expect that after your promotion, you’ll be happier, in reality you’ll be overworked and stressed. You expect that after you buy a certain item it will give you immense satisfaction, when in fact it gives you temporary serotonin and after that you feel guilty about buying it. You plan to go to the gym, and set high expectations for yourself so that in 5 months you’ll have lost 20 pounds. When in reality, it doesn’t work like that and you put immense pressure on yourself and you don’t enjoy the process and the fitness activity.
Here’s how to set healthy intentions for every action you take:
1. Be aware of the expectations you set
Be aware of the expectations you set for yourself and what you should actually expect. This allows you to escape the false promise that things will turn out differently than reality. When you encounter a new situation, ask yourself what the outcome could be. And what you wish the outcome will be. Ask yourself if it should be this way, and if they match reality. And if you feel disappointed, think if it was realistic to hope for your desired outcome.
2. Consider your happiness above expectations
Accept what makes you truly happy. If you work a job only to buy yourself nice things, you’ll not get real satisfaction and your happiness will not be long-lasting. It’s perfectly fine to want more, but you can enjoy life so much more if you are content with what you currently have. Find happiness in the things you have now.
3. Create dreams and goals accordingly
You need a goal or a dream to keep you motivated. You need to believe in yourself that you are capable of achieving all you set out to achieve. But, you don’t need to set high expectations for yourself in order to accomplish them. You’re not obliged to have everything set before you turn 30. Having the perfect job right after graduating college, or even having the perfect life all the time. Set your dreams and goals, to what you want the end result to be. If your goal is to live a more fulfilling life, you need to work towards that. And accept that it’s not always going to be perfect and a smooth journey, and that’s alright.
3. Practice gratitude
Appreciate the progress you are making, and accept the fact that everyone moves at different paces. You might not be where you wanted to be when you were 15, and that’s okay. Life happened and you are still on track to having the best life you want. But, you have to work for it. So, it’s nice to tell yourself that you are making progress on your own terms and you are also enjoying the entire journey.
4. Change the way you see failure
Sometimes, when you are very keen on achieving your goals, you might not want to even start as failure can creep into your thoughts. You might start to think that if you work towards what you want, you might fail, and this will give you disappointment. Start by having a lot more confidence in yourself and create the life you’ve wanted. You can get ahead by doing my FREE 7-Day Challenge.
In the end, for every action you take and for every decision you make there will be some kind of outcome. But everything goes back to what are your thoughts and what intentions you set for yourself. It’s okay to have some expectations on how things can turn out. But make sure those expectations are not affecting your mental health, your journey. Take baby steps, always 🙂
Above all, you need to have confidence in yourself that things will work out for the best. You need to nurture your self-esteem and create an environment where you can grow. If you need an extra push in this direction and get a little sense of accountability you can join my 7-Day Challenge. And get starting on getting your confidence levels up and start having the life you’ve wanted. https://app.open.ifuiwill.com/share/1949786398