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How have you been? Since it’s National Stress Week, I thought it’s the right time to talk about stress and how to deal with it at work from my own rather short experience. It might be tempting to take things to heart in an office environment, but you have to remember that everyone deals with stress in a different way. Don’t take anything personally and focus on making your life easier first.

Hello everyone,

As you might have seen on my social media channels, it was my birthday yesterday. I’ve just turned 24 and I feel incredibly powerful. Yes, I feel powerful because my life experiences have made me feel confident. This article is about sharing what I’ve learnt in my life so far, aiming to ‘inspire’ (quotation marks there because I don’t really like that word) you to look at certain things from a different light.

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Always trust your instinct

It might be scary and even too much sometimes, but if your instinct is telling you something, just trust it. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t come up with a rational plan for your actions because don’t get me wrong, we’re rational beings as we are emotional, but use your instinct as a guide. Mine was never wrong, or better yet, mine always led me to beautiful destinations and I’m sure yours will too.

Don’t let anyone bring you down

Some people will always think they know better about everything. They don’t. No one knows what’s best for you better than yourself. If someone tries to bring you down and not giving you actual advice or ‘feedback’ (careful with this feedback though because it’s not well intended all the time), there’s no point to listen to their opinion. You know phrases like ‘I’m not sure if you should do that’ or ‘I think your priorities are not set straight’, I personally understand where they come from, but it’s important how the person communicates it to you. These two affirmations show lack of knowledge because no one can ever tell you which are your priorities. Don’t let other people bring you down with the way they speak to you even though it’s non-intentional. Use positive words and explain how that can affect your relationship. If they do want to bring you down, just distance yourself from that poisonous relationship. Easy!

Believe in your own power to succeed

Cliche or not, this is one of the best pieces of advice I could give you. I touched on the importance of believing in your own power to succeed in this article. If you haven’t read it yet, have a look at it for a more in-depth chat. What I would love for you to do right now is to picture where you want to get and believe with your whole heart that you have to get there. Guess what? You will! There were situations in my life when I had to believe in myself and my power to succeed and without that inner strength I’m not sure that I would have gotten to where I am today. Had to have a lot of strength when I moved on my own at 19 to study marketing in the UK, when I quit my job just to find another one two weeks later and to quit that new one after two weeks because it wasn’t a match! Be bold and don’t look back, as hard as it may be.

See the good in people first

It took me a while to be good at this to be honest. I used to be judging others and be more inclined to dislike new people rather than give them a fair chance. I haven’t analysed why but the point is that now I welcome people in my life and start seeing the good in them from the beginning! I encourage you to do the same because you never know who can become your absolute best friend.

Give your best to make your friends feel amazing

When you have friends over or when you meet up out give your best to make them feel great in your company. Leave your negative vibes aside and be the persons who says ‘you look so pretty today’! When they do stay over, make sure they feel at home. Look at all little details that can make their stay amazing: ear pods, night masks, chargers, welcome gifts, carefully prepare food. Give them a stay to remember. It will make you so happy to offer something from your heart and your relationship will only become better and better.

Give 100% in everything you do

Do things with passion and put your 100% in everything you do: projects, relationships, university work. Only this way, you can be the best version of yourself.

Be DEDICATED to achieving your goals

Sometimes we don’t feel like putting in the work or we often prefer to hang out than put in the effort. Goal achievement is a lot of work, a lot of ups & downs and most importantly is a lot of dedication. Don’t think that people who succeeded did so over night. You need to be dedicated, passionate and absolutely sure you’ll do your best.

Motivate yourself when you’re feeling down

I have some moments when I’m not as motivated, when I’d rather watch YouTube than work out for example. In those moments, I am motivating myself to get out and do it. Having that end goal in mind is so essential when it comes to motivation. Sometimes, I do feel down and I put myself in a better mood by lighting a candle or reading a few pages of a good book. I totally recommend finding your own motivation routine: podcasts, books, videos to keep yourself on the right track.

Get surrounded by people who aspire towards something great

You know how important it is to have people who are doing great around you? Energy is transferable and good energy is really contagious. It’s equally important that your friends not only do great, but aspire to do better all the time.

Don’t give up when things get though

EASY to say, right? Just practice your own motivation techniques and believe in yourself to have the power to continue when things get though. It’s the hard part of the process of evolution, but it’s paying off.

It’s ok to have ‘bad’ days

Yes, you can motivate yourself and yes it may not work one day and that’s ok. Accept yourself. Accept your moods.

Learn life admin things early (moving houses, paying bills, credit cards, buying cars)

Let me tell you, either you like it or not life admin things make you a responsible person. Read online about opening a credit card to improve your credit score, learn how to better pack and move houses, research buying your own car to be less dependent on public transportation. The sooner you learn all these things, the better for you!

Allow yourself a bit of time to learn something new often

One of my favourite things to do is to learn something new about history, interior design or different cultures. I often browse the Netflix section for documentary / lifestyle shows that not only entertain me, but teach me something new as well! It helps me stay updated and grow my general knowledge which is something I highly value in everyone.

Learn how to love

Learn how to love and do it selflessly.

Love your family, life partner and friends with all your heart

Love them with all your heart and offer them your time because it’s the most precious gift, after actual gifts.

Invest more money in travelling and cool experiences rather than shoes

Experience, travelling and embracing new cultures = that’s what life is about for me. Shoes and other goods are important too, but they come second 😉

Have relaxing moments with yourself

Run a bath, watch something relaxing, paint. Allow yourself to relax!

Find happiness in something good that you do

I recently discovered my passion for interior design. I design rooms on my Ipad or read about the subject online and it makes me so happy. I also love cooking healthy food and enjoy every mouthful!

Always aspire to grow on all plans

Grow and look at your performance 🙂

Enjoy every single moment of your life

This one speaks for itself!

Show your appreciation to others sooner rather than later

Show appreciation as soon as you feel it! Don’t hide your feelings.

Don’t judge and don’t moan & groan

Stop judging and instead of complaining about situations, find positive things to talk about. You can’t change the past, can you? You can only focus on what’s to come.

For fellow bloggers out there, do your thing & people will love you

Express yourself and don’t be afraid to share your thoughts with the world. Stop obessing about the numbers and just to you thing 🙂

Be your own kind of beautiful 

Be yourself and enjoy every moment of your life!

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Did you notice how in my baby pictures I was always ‘flying’? So funny, I can’t have a traditional picture because I was actually happy while ‘flying around’ haha! I really hope you enjoyed this post. See you soon ❤️

Lots of love,

Andrada

Confidence wasn’t something that I was born with; not at all. I think that during secondary school bullying definitely affected how I felt about myself. It wasn’t just bullying that made me feel unconfident though; it also had to do with the fact that I was different and not really fitting in from my point of view. Luckily for me (and you today), I realised something that made me 100% more confident than I was. Keep on reading to find out what it was!

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My life growing up was really fun I would say, but during a year or two in secondary school I was struggling a little bit with my mental health, especially the way I was seeing myself. I am sure that a majority of you have dealt with bullying or bad jokes in school. Looking back now, it’s not a big deal, but for a kid it’s a HUGE deal because at that age we don’t know who we are and what is our potential. We won’t even listen to our family’s kind words, all we seek is the bully’s approval. However, it stopped at some point and I was able to feel happy that finally I can enjoy my life which was really beautiful anyways! I started analysing myself even more and basically, I was feeling doubtful in myself because actually I was NOT fitting in. I was different. I had a different fashion style. I was an extrovert. I had opinions. I enjoyed different things. And that, affected me a lot. It was like, everything that I was doing had more consequences for me than for everybody else. Was I skipping school because I had a real reason? Andrada is in trouble now. Was I talking to someone during a class? Andrada got kicked out for 20 minutes.  Everyone else could go unnoticed, but not myself. WHY?

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Being always present and having a good relationship with lecturers meant that my actions were supervised really closely. Was that a bad thing? Absolutely not. They cared. I realised that being different is not a bad thing. Some people liked me, some didn’t. At least I was authentic and people who wanted me to succeed were supporting me, including the lecturers. Funny, but I only realised this in my last year of high school when actually lecturers were listening to my opinion and appreciating me for who I am & how hard I study. Take it like this, you need to get to know yourself, what you’re capable of and let others know it as well. If you don’t trust yourself, no one will. I finally learnt that gaining attention wasn’t a bad thing and realised I need to turn that in my favour. I gained a certain influence in class too. That massively helped me.

Your turn now!

Be authentic

It’s being written everywhere and you’re probably BORED out of your mind. Trust me, being authentic is really important in a world where people can be really fake and sometimes not because they want to, but because they’re afraid to be themselves. Be who you are because by knowing who you are, you nail down your strengths and start to grow your confidence. Starting point: write down 10 things you really like about yourself and celebrate your own self! It’s such a confidence booster!

Believe in your power to be successful

If you believe in your power to succeed and actually achieve all your plans, your mind will send great signals to the universe and you’ll be one step closer to the end goal. Not only that, but your confidence levels will go to the roof. You’ll start talking with such passion about your projects and start to believe in yourself more and more!

Enjoy the attention!

With such confidence levels, expect people to be curious. They will start asking you all sort of questions from good intentions ones to some uncomfortable ones just because they can. Learn how to respond to each type of question and enjoy people’s attention. Again, people will be curious, but you shouldn’t let their opinion influence the way you think about your projects or even about yourself. Don’t listen to nasty comments and be happy for people who support you. You’ll be so much more confident!

Influence others with your confidence…

Turn their attention in the direction you decide. Confident people inspire other people and influence them in different ways. Have you noticed how someone who just started a business has a vast knowledge in the subject? They can easily use that to influence others in many areas and gain their respect. Always speak about your projects or plans with great knowledge (don’t boast) and let your actions speak louder than your words. People will see you’re smart and really driven. They will respect and value your opinion. Obviously, your end goal is not to prove everyone your potential, but this will inevitably happen sooner or later.

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There you have it, how I gained 100% more confidence while growing up! I’m sure my tips will help you feel more confident and get you ready to celebrate your own beautiful self. I would love to know, what’s the one part in this article that you identify yourself with?

Until next time,

Andrada

Have you ever felt like you can achieve a lot more than the results you’re seeing? You know yourself, you have that ambition that sticks to others and makes them become more ambitious, but something is stopping you from taking the leap and jumping right in. I’m going to share with you five tips on becoming your most confident self and turning your dreams into reality. Action your life now!

  1. Say NO to your fear

Believe it or not, what keeps you from achieving your inner goals is your fear of not loosing. Loosing what? The ‘game’ that you tend to turn most of the things you do into. In reality, there’s no such thing as loosing. You simply find different ‘destinations’ according to the path you’re choosing. Eliminate the fear from your mind, stop being afraid of different consequences because your mind is a powerful tool and can easily adapt to any situation. The worst thing that we can do is have expectations and then be disappointed of the reality. It’s like you paint this picture of eating the most delicious meal tonight, but there’s nothing there to guarantee the restaurant or the dish you’re going for will be the best meal of your life. You need to leave mystery and just enjoy your life without planning every single step of your journey. Now you’ll ask me, ‘Ok, but what if I’m disappointed’? You simply WON’T! You need to find a balance within yourself and learn to enjoy moments and outcomes to the fullest.

2. Become your biggest fan

Who can love yourself more than you love yourself? You need to fully love yourself with all you have and truly believe that you will achieve everything you put your mind to. Do more things with yourself and enjoy your own company. The abundant Universe will respond positively to your self-empowerment. Do you have an idea for an online business but people think it’s risky? Forget their opinions. They’re based on their or other people’s experiences. We are all different, what works for you might not work for others and the other way around. Thing is, there is no such thing as risk. I know. Let’s say that again together: there is no such thing as risk. 

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3.  Start seeing yourself as a powerful person

Do you think you’re powerful? How do you define power within one self? You probably have role models, people who you look up to and admire for their strong personality. Do you know what they have, maybe a little bit more than yourself? Confidence. Being confident will make you powerful. Trust yourself. Believe in your own power. We all have something amazing within ourselves! Don’t let negative thinking bring you down and just focus on your strong characteristics. It’s like in a job interview, you play on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Do the same in life and you’ll live happily!

4.  Speak positively – use your own positive words

How many times do you find yourself complaining during the day? Seriously now, start to notice how many times you say something negative. Moaning about stuff is really natural for some, even for myself. It took me a long time to educate myself to spread less negative vibes and turn my life around. I know it’s not fun and games 24/7 but let’s stop playing the victim. Ultimately, we’re a product of how we react to things happening around us. Our reactions make up the life we want to live. You smashed your favourite glass by mistake? Are you getting angry and start cleaning in a rush? Or are you at peace with yourself and think ‘life goes on, I’ll get a better one tomorrow’? If you’re getting angry, you might cut your finger and one unfortunate event will follow another one. If you decide to be cool about it, you have something to look forward to: your new glass. Notice how your reaction really influences the flow of things in your life. So, start using your positive words and notice their impact in both daily life, but also reaching your goals.

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5. Practice the power of daily meditation and positive affirmations

You believe in a positive life. Say that to yourself during a daily meditation. Find a phrase that you really love and make that your motto. Even more than that, stick post-it notes on your fridge, desk or mirror to constantly remind yourself that you’re up to something great. Remember, having an image of your ideal life is great! Don’t feel the need to meet every single aspect of it as we need to keep that mystery we discussed about previously. Let the Universe know that you’re open to whatever goodness is throwing at you. You’re going to become stronger, hence more and more confident as everyday goes by.

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There you have it, my top five tips on becoming your most confident-self! I’m sure they will stay at the base of you achieving your plans in life. I really believe that confident people rule the world. Your turn, let me know if the comment section below, what do you do to become more confident?

Lots of love,

NotAGirlyGal

Hello my lovelies and Happy New Year,

Either you started the new year with a resolution and new plans or you simply just went on with it, you clearly must have felt something inside when the new year had started. Inevitably, the idea of new beginnings is somehow implemented in our minds by the way the world works, but you don’t have to feel the social pressure. You just have to do everything you can to make yourself happy and that’s all that matters. That’s why, today I am giving you top tips on how to start the year positive and feel at your best while doing so.

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Start by changing your vocabulary with action words

Positive talking inspires positive thinking. Believe it or not, when we say something out loud, our subconscious mind fully believes it. If you say ‘I hope to get a good grade on my Marketing exam’ it will actually translate to your subconscious as ‘There are chances I won’t get that exam’. Start by replacing ‘hope’ with ‘will’ and your results will change significantly. Just notice the difference a verb can make in the statement ‘I will get get a good grade on my Marketing exam’. Same goes for verbs such as ‘could’ or ‘may’. Powerful vocabulary will empower you to achieve everything you plan.

Talk positively about your life experiences

Have you noticed how often we complain about stuff? How we tend to blame others or other circumstances for our ‘bad experiences’? Susan Jeffers stated that we are a result of how we react to different situations in our lives and we only have two options: to choose to be happy or to moan and groan. Next time you’re facing an unpleasant situation such as a card loss, traffic jam, delays and so on, keep your strength and just go on with it as there’s nothing you could do about the situation, but make the most of it. How? If my train or flight is delayed I focus on getting work done instead, or if I lose a credit card (which I did last month), I just order a new one and feel happy no one has used it contactless. Instead of complaining to others about these ‘injustices’ take yourself from the position of a victim to one of a powerful positive person and you’ll gain so much more.

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Stop judging others and surround yourself by positive people

Sometimes we feel unhappy about others, but judging someone else frequently is a time waste. Wait until you understand the whole context until you can form an opinion for yourself. Ask yourself ‘Why did that action of hers bothered me so much?’ Most of the time it’s you who is taking things in a wrong way or get upset because your own frustrations, but you need to assess the situation objectively to put your finger on it. You should stay away from people who are not supporting your growth and surround yourself by kind and loving people like yourself.

Say ‘yes’ more often

It’s so easy to say no and shut the door to people and opportunities. I often fell into this trap, but I choose to say ‘yes’ as often as possible. Let’s make time to meet our good friend for coffee or go to the gym more often. Life is a series of amazing opportunities that we only need to respond to.

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Bring out your colours

And if you thought there’s nothing like positive dressing, for me it definitely is. Wearing nudes or colours brings a lot more positives in my life. You should try it too.

I feel so happy I shared this with you today and truly hope it will change your attitude towards life for the better. It will take a while to make the changes, but practice my tips everyday and you’ll live a more positive life.

 

Photoshooting by Visuall Group. 

Have a fabulous 2019,

NotAGirlyGal

Feeling stuck? We all have moments when we feel stuck and we might experience a sort of mental block. Well, this happened to me recently; I didn’t feel like doing anything, let alone get creative with content ideas. In the first instance, I blamed the weather and my deep desire of having a bit of sunshine. I woke up late one morning and while I was scrolling on Instagram (I love to spend one hour in bed and just read fashion posts), I’ve seen this post ‘Put your hair in a bun, drink coffee and deal with it!’. It hit me! It’s in your power to lift your mood and make a change, I’ve known that for a while now, but sometimes you just need that push. I still can’t believe a simple post like that triggered me. If you’re feeling unmotivated or not feeling like yourself, it’s ok to get mad at that, but also try to find a solution to get out if it. Easier to say than do, right? Not to worry, I have put together a plan to motivate you again and I really hope you’ll takeaway something from it today 🙂

1. Don’t Settle in the Bad Mood

It’s so easy to settle in the bad mood and continue to feel miserable. Why do it, though? You have the power to lift your mood and before starting to do anything, bear that in mind. It will give you positive energy to actually do something about it.

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2. An hour of Browsing your Favourite Magazines

Loving fashion, design or art? Or all of them? Emerse yourself in the artistic environment and guaranteed your mood will be lifted! All Versace jewerlly, Balenciaga shoes and Chanel suits shown in Vogue, Elle or Glamour will inspire you to dream with your eyes open. The Art and Travel sections in Vogue always make me discover something new like hot beaches and new London exhibitions that I’m adding to my never ending lists. When I feel less creative, getting in contact with artists that way always makes me feel positive. It’s therapy trough ART.

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3. Watch a Stand-Up Comedy Show

Either on YouTube or live, a stand-up comedy show makes me laugh with tears even in my worst days. Ricky Gervais is one of my favourites on YouTube, and me and my boyfriend usually go to Top-Secret Comedy Club in Covent Garden for a good live show and a great laugh!

4. Style Your Hair and do Your Nails

When my hair looks great, I feel amazing! Even though you don’t feel like it, style your hair differently when you’re feeling down. It’s a mood booster! Try out a new beauty salon or do it yourself at home. I recently went to Jonathan Lever for a blow dry and I was supper happy with the relaxed curls the stylist gave me. So, hair on point can mean day on point. Nails are super important too, and good manicure makes me feel put together. To reinvent that quote:  ‘Style your hair, do your nails and conquer the day’.

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5. Get Creative!

Step out from that bad mood you’re in by getting creative. If you’re a blogger, read other blogs and fashion magazines, watch documentaries and try to come up with new ideas for your blog. I take great inspiration from Sofia Amoruso (founder of Nasty Gal, author of Girl Boss) and Maria Hatziesfanis (founder of Rodial, author of How to Build an Overnight Success), so I love watching interviews with them to get my creativity going. If you didn’t read their books yet, I totally recommend them as they will change your perspective on building your personal brand! P.S: Read while you commute to save precious time.

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6. Go on a Street Food Market Stroll

Invite a friend with you for a street food market stroll! I love the street food on Notting Hill Market & Camden! Even though it rains, in Notting Hill you can eat and drink inside. After that, why not going to the beauty salon together to get that fresh style I mentioned earlier?

What would be something that you do when you don’t feel 100% good? Let me know in the comment section below 🙂

Until next time,

MISSANDRADA

Hello everyone,

Today’s post will be different from the fashion topic as I am launching my first lifestyle post! I will be still running my fashion blog, but I would love to share with you some ideas about lifestyle as I believe a certain style can only be achieved by mastering both.

Our lives are so complex these days, that we often find ourselves overwhelmed by daily tasks. But have you wondered why? Why are you feeling stressed about all these aspects coming together? In this article, I will share my own experience so far with managing my tasks including studies, work and other activities, highlighting key solutions to avoid stress.

  1. Take a step back

When you feel stressed, take a step back for five seconds and ask yourself a simple question ‘What am I doing?’. If you have a lot of things going on, my number one advice is to prioritise. Make a list in the beginning of the day with tasks to complete. If you want to see progress, write down things you wish to complete, focusing on sticking to a bigger (let’s say) monthly plan.

2. Use any spare time available to you during the day

This idea might not be to everyone’s liking, but it’s really worth a try. For example, you might have to shop online for groceries, tickets or you have to write a piece of work. Don’t wait until you get into ‘that mind set’. You can actually use any time slot you have available during the day. I find commuting or train journeys really useful for dealing with tasks on my list. You will notice that suddenly you will feel better for getting things done sooner than having to wait until you reach your destination (and usually ending up procrastinating again).

3.  When you are working, make sure you only do so!

Ok, so you got your plan, but how to go about it? When you work, please do so! Don’t let other things distract you from it (mobile phone, social media, texts, other talking to you). And do not spend time thinking/complaining about the work, go ahead and do it! Be efficient and progress driven in everything you do.

  1. Live the moments for relaxation to the fullest

I cannot stress this enough! Don’t let deadlines stress you! Be confident! You know you’re good. You know that in the past you completed your tasks very well, so why stress this time? In my view, it is highly important that you create a ‘wall’ between your professional life and personal life. In the moment you feel you let them interfere in a negative way, such as when you might experience stress from workplace, outside the working schedule, you have to reconsider your priorities. As long as you plan out your workload and work productively, you will be able to feel more organised. However, training your brain into enjoying free time when you’re going through a hard time is an exercise to master. I am still working on it, but experience proves I did a good job, so I am confident for the future.

  1. Learn that everything is fixable

 Made a mistake? Did something have a negative impact on you? Learn to deal with it patiently. There is nothing worse than becoming super worried because the solution can be just in front of you! Understanding that everything is fixable is key in achieving a positive and relaxed attitude that ultimately will lead to mind peace.

    6.   Create the perfect environment for you with beautiful flowers

A tidy nicely decorated room can highly help you be at ease. I feel more relaxed when I find myself in clear of clutter surroundings. Also, I believe that having flowers in my bedroom contribute to creating a peaceful atmosphere. I feel more productive and enthusiastic about everything that I am doing (even online banking!). There’s no room decoration out there that can recreate that atmosphere. They’re alive and make me feel full of energy. You should get into the habit of keeping flowers regularly.

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This beautiful bouquet ‘Happy Harmony’ was kindly sent to me by the 123 Flowers company. The brand offers perfectly made flower bouquets for every occasion. I believe people might be afraid of their bouquet not actually looking just like the one on their website when ordering flowers online, but this is absolutely not the case. Their real-life flowers look exactly like the ones in the picture. Trust me, they won my heart with this one. This is a great advantage for them as a brand – meeting and even exceeding customers’ expectation is key. Have a look at their website to discover different bouquets they have available for you: https://www.123-flowers.co.uk 

With every order you receive a free vase and you get the opportunity to add a cute bear to brighten someone’s day. I don’t know how really, but it’s the 6th day I’ve been keeping the bouquet in my room and the flowers are still lasting! I am really happy with the flowers and their constant care for the bouquet – it was sent in a big beautiful box so the product was not damaged at all. You can fully trust 123 Flowers with your order and they will not disappoint you 🙂

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I really hope my article made you feel better and take certain actions towards achieving your goal. I would love to hear from you, so please let me know in the comments below what kind of things you do to feel stress-free?

Until next time,

MISSANDRADA