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There are so many stoic life lessons worth living by. But before going into them, I’d love introducing you to Stoicism.

Stoicism teaches how to keep calm no matter the circumstances. It makes you focus on what you can control and accept the many things you can’t actually directly control. The main idea is that your mind will never leave you, the more you can work with it and train it, the wiser & happier you’re going to become.

This philosophy reflects on enjoying all the aspects of life and living worry-free. Moreover, being able to acknowledge and be grateful for whatever life throws at you is an incredible practice. If you start living your life by stoic lessons, you will be able to always keep your head up, look and feel confident and achieve a positive mindset.

Let’s get straight to the point and find out which 10 stoic life lessons are worth living by!

1. Prepare for future failures

For by foreseeing anything that can happen as though it will happen he will soften the onslaught of all his troubles.

Seneca wrote this statement in order to explain that everyone should expect failures in life – it’s just the way life is. However, once these storms appear in your journey, you should be able to overcome them strategically to maintain your life at peace. You should be brave enough to endure the thought of failure or disappointment. If you’re well prepared for the worst, then you won’t feel like you have no choice; you’ll get to apply plan B or C. Think about it, if you already know that it’s going to rain today and decide to take an umbrella with you JUST IN CASE, you’ve already seen the worse that can happen and prepared for it. Apply this type of thinking to everyday events and you’ll live more peacefully.

2. Face your fears

He who fears death will never do anything worthy of a living man.

In this saying, Seneca brings something very powerful to our attention. He explains that a man who fears everything in life, including death will never be able to enjoy his / her presence on earth. Moreover, the ones who live in fear won’t get the chance to do something remarkable in their lives. Being able to take risks and to enjoy every moment at its highest potential will only bring you positivity, success and happiness. Face your fears and start living in order to be truly ALIVE.

3. Stop waiting

How long are you going to wait before you demand the best for yourself?

Epictetus said it better than everyone could! In life, you should know exactly how worthy you are. Therefore, why staying in the darkness, waiting for the light to come when you can demand it yourself? Only you have the power to change your life and to make it as good as possible. Only accept the best for yourself – you only have one life. If you don’t believe you truly deserve it, than why anyone would?

4. Don’t take anything for granted

You could leave life right now. Let that determine what you do and say and think.

Marcus Aurelius wanted to make everyone understand that life shouldn’t be taken for granted. Maybe tomorrow you won’t have the possibility to say to that one person how much you actually love them. Maybe tomorrow you won’t get the chance to go running, to say that joke, to make a tattoo, to even say sorry. Start living your life like there is no tomorrow and enjoy every single second of it.

5. Past, present and future

Life is very short and anxious for those who forget the past, neglect the present, and fear the future.

You will never be able to enjoy your life at its fullest if you “forget the past, neglect the present and fear the future”. Why so? Well, Seneca believed that if you forget your roots and where you come from, if you don’t take responsibility of your present actions and you always live with the fear of the future you’ll not be able to be truly be alive. It is important for a human being to comprehend time at its true value. Therefore, if you don’t start realising the difference between past, present and future and you live with continuous fear, you are not living life at its fullest.

6. Life is a bumpy ride

A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man perfected without trials.

Through this quote Seneca wanted to explain how a man can never achieve success without having some challenges along the way. There is no such thing as a clear road ahead because life is truly a bumpy ride. Therefore, you should face every challenge with positivity and always do your best. In the end, if you work hard and don’t stop believing you will achieve the success you’re dreaming of.

7. Keep calm

If you are easily provoked you are easily controlled.

It’s true that if a person can’t keep a clam mind, they can be “easily controlled”. If you start training your mind to stay calm and find peace, you will be able to focus on the really important aspects of life. You will understand that fighting or arguing will not get you anywhere. Being able to control your emotions is a sign of strength. Work for it and in the end claim it as one of your traits.

8. If you seek change, start with yourself

Waste no more time arguing what a good man should be, be one.

Marcus Aurelius explained the importance of always starting the change with yourself. We all have a theory of what a good man should be, but action speaks louder than words. Start living as a good person today and each time you notice a negative thought entering your mind, remember your new approach to life.

9. Enjoy life till the very end

Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget to sing in the lifeboats.

This quote by Voltaire is one of my very favourites. It reminds me how important it is to enjoy every second of my life. Seizing the day is one of the most important secrets in life. Carpe diem, right?

10. Do it for yourself

Why should we pay so much attention to what the majority thinks?

I find this quote by Socrates so resembling to the modern society we live in. You only have one life, therefore you should do what makes YOU happy, you should follow your instincts and stop paying so much attention of outside opinions. You are the captain to your ship and the road you want to follow is your choice!

These stoic life lessons represent how I’ve decided to live my life. I found peace and happiness in them and I’m forever grateful. I hope you’ve found inspiration in this article and that we are ready to seize the day together!

Until next time,

Miss Andrada

XOXO

Hello my lovelies and Happy New Year,

Either you started the new year with a resolution and new plans or you simply just went on with it, you clearly must have felt something inside when the new year had started. Inevitably, the idea of new beginnings is somehow implemented in our minds by the way the world works, but you don’t have to feel the social pressure. You just have to do everything you can to make yourself happy and that’s all that matters. That’s why, today I am giving you top tips on how to start the year positive and feel at your best while doing so.

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Start by changing your vocabulary with action words

Positive talking inspires positive thinking. Believe it or not, when we say something out loud, our subconscious mind fully believes it. If you say ‘I hope to get a good grade on my Marketing exam’ it will actually translate to your subconscious as ‘There are chances I won’t get that exam’. Start by replacing ‘hope’ with ‘will’ and your results will change significantly. Just notice the difference a verb can make in the statement ‘I will get get a good grade on my Marketing exam’. Same goes for verbs such as ‘could’ or ‘may’. Powerful vocabulary will empower you to achieve everything you plan.

Talk positively about your life experiences

Have you noticed how often we complain about stuff? How we tend to blame others or other circumstances for our ‘bad experiences’? Susan Jeffers stated that we are a result of how we react to different situations in our lives and we only have two options: to choose to be happy or to moan and groan. Next time you’re facing an unpleasant situation such as a card loss, traffic jam, delays and so on, keep your strength and just go on with it as there’s nothing you could do about the situation, but make the most of it. How? If my train or flight is delayed I focus on getting work done instead, or if I lose a credit card (which I did last month), I just order a new one and feel happy no one has used it contactless. Instead of complaining to others about these ‘injustices’ take yourself from the position of a victim to one of a powerful positive person and you’ll gain so much more.

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Stop judging others and surround yourself by positive people

Sometimes we feel unhappy about others, but judging someone else frequently is a time waste. Wait until you understand the whole context until you can form an opinion for yourself. Ask yourself ‘Why did that action of hers bothered me so much?’ Most of the time it’s you who is taking things in a wrong way or get upset because your own frustrations, but you need to assess the situation objectively to put your finger on it. You should stay away from people who are not supporting your growth and surround yourself by kind and loving people like yourself.

Say ‘yes’ more often

It’s so easy to say no and shut the door to people and opportunities. I often fell into this trap, but I choose to say ‘yes’ as often as possible. Let’s make time to meet our good friend for coffee or go to the gym more often. Life is a series of amazing opportunities that we only need to respond to.

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Bring out your colours

And if you thought there’s nothing like positive dressing, for me it definitely is. Wearing nudes or colours brings a lot more positives in my life. You should try it too.

I feel so happy I shared this with you today and truly hope it will change your attitude towards life for the better. It will take a while to make the changes, but practice my tips everyday and you’ll live a more positive life.

 

Photoshooting by Visuall Group. 

Have a fabulous 2019,

NotAGirlyGal

Feeling stuck? We all have moments when we feel stuck and we might experience a sort of mental block. Well, this happened to me recently; I didn’t feel like doing anything, let alone get creative with content ideas. In the first instance, I blamed the weather and my deep desire of having a bit of sunshine. I woke up late one morning and while I was scrolling on Instagram (I love to spend one hour in bed and just read fashion posts), I’ve seen this post ‘Put your hair in a bun, drink coffee and deal with it!’. It hit me! It’s in your power to lift your mood and make a change, I’ve known that for a while now, but sometimes you just need that push. I still can’t believe a simple post like that triggered me. If you’re feeling unmotivated or not feeling like yourself, it’s ok to get mad at that, but also try to find a solution to get out if it. Easier to say than do, right? Not to worry, I have put together a plan to motivate you again and I really hope you’ll takeaway something from it today 🙂

1. Don’t Settle in the Bad Mood

It’s so easy to settle in the bad mood and continue to feel miserable. Why do it, though? You have the power to lift your mood and before starting to do anything, bear that in mind. It will give you positive energy to actually do something about it.

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2. An hour of Browsing your Favourite Magazines

Loving fashion, design or art? Or all of them? Emerse yourself in the artistic environment and guaranteed your mood will be lifted! All Versace jewerlly, Balenciaga shoes and Chanel suits shown in Vogue, Elle or Glamour will inspire you to dream with your eyes open. The Art and Travel sections in Vogue always make me discover something new like hot beaches and new London exhibitions that I’m adding to my never ending lists. When I feel less creative, getting in contact with artists that way always makes me feel positive. It’s therapy trough ART.

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3. Watch a Stand-Up Comedy Show

Either on YouTube or live, a stand-up comedy show makes me laugh with tears even in my worst days. Ricky Gervais is one of my favourites on YouTube, and me and my boyfriend usually go to Top-Secret Comedy Club in Covent Garden for a good live show and a great laugh!

4. Style Your Hair and do Your Nails

When my hair looks great, I feel amazing! Even though you don’t feel like it, style your hair differently when you’re feeling down. It’s a mood booster! Try out a new beauty salon or do it yourself at home. I recently went to Jonathan Lever for a blow dry and I was supper happy with the relaxed curls the stylist gave me. So, hair on point can mean day on point. Nails are super important too, and good manicure makes me feel put together. To reinvent that quote:  ‘Style your hair, do your nails and conquer the day’.

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5. Get Creative!

Step out from that bad mood you’re in by getting creative. If you’re a blogger, read other blogs and fashion magazines, watch documentaries and try to come up with new ideas for your blog. I take great inspiration from Sofia Amoruso (founder of Nasty Gal, author of Girl Boss) and Maria Hatziesfanis (founder of Rodial, author of How to Build an Overnight Success), so I love watching interviews with them to get my creativity going. If you didn’t read their books yet, I totally recommend them as they will change your perspective on building your personal brand! P.S: Read while you commute to save precious time.

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6. Go on a Street Food Market Stroll

Invite a friend with you for a street food market stroll! I love the street food on Notting Hill Market & Camden! Even though it rains, in Notting Hill you can eat and drink inside. After that, why not going to the beauty salon together to get that fresh style I mentioned earlier?

What would be something that you do when you don’t feel 100% good? Let me know in the comment section below 🙂

Until next time,

MISSANDRADA