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Self care, wellbeing, mindfulness. They are words that I haven’t really used until recently. As you grow up you start to realise how important it is to look after yourself and spend some extra time for your wellbeing. I’m sharing with you 10 ways to practice self care even though you’re completely new to the subject and have little time to assign to it.

Start short sessions of meditation

If you haven’t practiced any type of meditation before, a great place to start would be an app or an audible playlist. There are apps out there that help you meditate; it’s such as having your own personal coach guiding you through meditation everyday. I started my meditation series with Simple Habit last summer by listening to a shooting voice teaching me all about breathing techniques, the power of our imagination to bring happy thoughts and becoming more positive, just before drifting off to sleep. I’m always looking forward to that moment of my day, either that’s 5 or 10 minutes I can dedicate to it. Have a look on app store / google play and pick one app that works for you – usually they’re free, but you can upgrade to unlock other meditation exercises if you’d like to. The fun part is that you can meditate on your commute, as soon as you wake up in the morning, on your work break or while in bed at night. Whenever works for you.

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Take moments for yourself

This might sound straightforward, but not a lot of us do this consciously. You might have a lot on your plate right now, from juggling work to doing your daily house keeping stuff, socialising with people, taking time to sort your other projects. These things take a lot of energy out of you, without you realising it. It’s not like going to the gym for 20 min and then feeling exhausted right away. No. A busy schedule will make you tired in the long run. Say you’ll feel it at the end of the week or month. When you realise you’re involved in too many things at once, create a schedule and allow yourself to take a breather. Right in the middle of my day I like to disconnect by going to the gym / for a run, by doing yoga or by just watching an inspiring video. It’s very important that you consciously realise that the moment is for yourself, for your own wellbeing.

Be grateful

I’ve learnt this during my meditation practices; being grateful that we’re alive and that we’ve had so many accomplishments this far is an amazing deed that we can do for ourselves. Be grateful and put things into perspective, you have a whole life in front of you to create even more great accomplishments & wonderful memories. It works like magic for me and I truly recommend you try it. You’ll notice positive thoughts running through your head at random times of the day.

Allow yourself to experience emotions

Either good or bad, emotions need to be let out. We all have rough days when we can’t feel as positive. Allow yourself to just be! Don’t feel pressured to feel something else than you’re experiencing. For as long as you need. Then, try to get back on your positive vibes. It’s important to acknowledge the feeling and then move on.

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Enjoy ever mouthful

Having time to fully enjoy your meal is vital. Take at least one meal a day where you sit down and eat your food without doing something else (eg. working). While we eat dinner, me and Andrei like to either chat or watch an entertaining video to disconnect a little bit before we go back to working on our projects. I recommend you do the same and have that as your daily objective. You’ll feel so much better at the end of the day.

Don’t judge yourself too harshly

We all have our own plans and objectives. Some of us even run our businesses while working full time and that means juggling a lot and accomplishing a lot on both plans. The mistake some of us do is judging ourselves on the daily instead of focusing on the yearly. What that means is that if one of your posts as a blogger didn’t do well today or if your sales are down today, that’s not a big deal at all. Look at it from a year’s perspective, did you grow your views / following or did you make more sales than last year? That’s your KPI and should feel proud. That’s something that I started doing recently and it definitely opens up a new perspective.

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Avoid running into stressful situations

Ahh, I used to be the queen of running into stressful situations in every circumstance because I wasn’t organised enough. Of course there are situations like that even today, but they occur less because I’m tired of not organising myself and forgetting small pieces of the puzzle. Say you need to go on a short trip, you might want to plan you outfits in advance, do your research on all the places you want to see (including the distance between them) and pack some extra helpful items such as an umbrella, plasters. You’ll save time deciding what to wear in the morning and those nice things you wanted to see might be on your way and run into them randomly during the day while you’re out and about! Same goes for going to work and planning your meals. Just give an extra 5 minutes of planning and you’ll be running into less stressful situations.

Relaxing bath

It’s a cliché, but taking a relaxing bath really has the power to make you feel more at ease. The sweet scent of your bubble foam or oils, the lukewarm water and the lit candles contribute to lifting your mood and inducing you into a state of relaxation. Even 20 min of soaking will make a difference. These are moments you can take for yourself and choose health over any work you might have due. Everything else can wait and it’s ok.

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Practice your hobby

We all have one! It can be painting (mine is), playing an instrument, reading or cycling. In today’s world where we’re pressured to do everything we need to do, there is literally little time left for practicing our hobbies. Although that is the case, we still need to find time for hobbies. That half an hour of cooking can easily be reduced to 15 minutes if you’re looking at the right recipe. Cut time on mundane activities and allow yourself more time for some fun stuff! It’s all going back to being organised.

Declutter & disconnect

Besides decluttering your home, it’s important for your mind to declutter your email box (yeah that one running out of space now) and your iPhone that is running out of space. I only keep my phone on silent mode because who needs to hear all those alerts? It’s a good idea yo disconnect from your phone or social media life when you get home from work and a little bit before bed. Choose meditation instead if scrolling on feeds.

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Self care is highly important and the more we focus on our mind, the better we perform in other areas of our lives: relationships with others, daily activities, planning your time. I hope you enjoyed this post and that will make you start practicing self-care from now on, or add a different activity to your current routine. Which one of these tips would be the easiest for you to take right now?

What I’m wearing

Besiva – Animal Print Top

Primark – High Waisted Shorts

Lots of love,

NotAGirlyGal

Confidence wasn’t something that I was born with; not at all. I think that during secondary school bullying definitely affected how I felt about myself. It wasn’t just bullying that made me feel unconfident though; it also had to do with the fact that I was different and not really fitting in from my point of view. Luckily for me (and you today), I realised something that made me 100% more confident than I was. Keep on reading to find out what it was!

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My life growing up was really fun I would say, but during a year or two in secondary school I was struggling a little bit with my mental health, especially the way I was seeing myself. I am sure that a majority of you have dealt with bullying or bad jokes in school. Looking back now, it’s not a big deal, but for a kid it’s a HUGE deal because at that age we don’t know who we are and what is our potential. We won’t even listen to our family’s kind words, all we seek is the bully’s approval. However, it stopped at some point and I was able to feel happy that finally I can enjoy my life which was really beautiful anyways! I started analysing myself even more and basically, I was feeling doubtful in myself because actually I was NOT fitting in. I was different. I had a different fashion style. I was an extrovert. I had opinions. I enjoyed different things. And that, affected me a lot. It was like, everything that I was doing had more consequences for me than for everybody else. Was I skipping school because I had a real reason? Andrada is in trouble now. Was I talking to someone during a class? Andrada got kicked out for 20 minutes.  Everyone else could go unnoticed, but not myself. WHY?

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Being always present and having a good relationship with lecturers meant that my actions were supervised really closely. Was that a bad thing? Absolutely not. They cared. I realised that being different is not a bad thing. Some people liked me, some didn’t. At least I was authentic and people who wanted me to succeed were supporting me, including the lecturers. Funny, but I only realised this in my last year of high school when actually lecturers were listening to my opinion and appreciating me for who I am & how hard I study. Take it like this, you need to get to know yourself, what you’re capable of and let others know it as well. If you don’t trust yourself, no one will. I finally learnt that gaining attention wasn’t a bad thing and realised I need to turn that in my favour. I gained a certain influence in class too. That massively helped me.

Your turn now!

Be authentic

It’s being written everywhere and you’re probably BORED out of your mind. Trust me, being authentic is really important in a world where people can be really fake and sometimes not because they want to, but because they’re afraid to be themselves. Be who you are because by knowing who you are, you nail down your strengths and start to grow your confidence. Starting point: write down 10 things you really like about yourself and celebrate your own self! It’s such a confidence booster!

Believe in your power to be successful

If you believe in your power to succeed and actually achieve all your plans, your mind will send great signals to the universe and you’ll be one step closer to the end goal. Not only that, but your confidence levels will go to the roof. You’ll start talking with such passion about your projects and start to believe in yourself more and more!

Enjoy the attention!

With such confidence levels, expect people to be curious. They will start asking you all sort of questions from good intentions ones to some uncomfortable ones just because they can. Learn how to respond to each type of question and enjoy people’s attention. Again, people will be curious, but you shouldn’t let their opinion influence the way you think about your projects or even about yourself. Don’t listen to nasty comments and be happy for people who support you. You’ll be so much more confident!

Influence others with your confidence…

Turn their attention in the direction you decide. Confident people inspire other people and influence them in different ways. Have you noticed how someone who just started a business has a vast knowledge in the subject? They can easily use that to influence others in many areas and gain their respect. Always speak about your projects or plans with great knowledge (don’t boast) and let your actions speak louder than your words. People will see you’re smart and really driven. They will respect and value your opinion. Obviously, your end goal is not to prove everyone your potential, but this will inevitably happen sooner or later.

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There you have it, how I gained 100% more confidence while growing up! I’m sure my tips will help you feel more confident and get you ready to celebrate your own beautiful self. I would love to know, what’s the one part in this article that you identify yourself with?

Until next time,

Andrada

Have you ever felt like you can achieve a lot more than the results you’re seeing? You know yourself, you have that ambition that sticks to others and makes them become more ambitious, but something is stopping you from taking the leap and jumping right in. I’m going to share with you five tips on becoming your most confident self and turning your dreams into reality. Action your life now!

  1. Say NO to your fear

Believe it or not, what keeps you from achieving your inner goals is your fear of not loosing. Loosing what? The ‘game’ that you tend to turn most of the things you do into. In reality, there’s no such thing as loosing. You simply find different ‘destinations’ according to the path you’re choosing. Eliminate the fear from your mind, stop being afraid of different consequences because your mind is a powerful tool and can easily adapt to any situation. The worst thing that we can do is have expectations and then be disappointed of the reality. It’s like you paint this picture of eating the most delicious meal tonight, but there’s nothing there to guarantee the restaurant or the dish you’re going for will be the best meal of your life. You need to leave mystery and just enjoy your life without planning every single step of your journey. Now you’ll ask me, ‘Ok, but what if I’m disappointed’? You simply WON’T! You need to find a balance within yourself and learn to enjoy moments and outcomes to the fullest.

2. Become your biggest fan

Who can love yourself more than you love yourself? You need to fully love yourself with all you have and truly believe that you will achieve everything you put your mind to. Do more things with yourself and enjoy your own company. The abundant Universe will respond positively to your self-empowerment. Do you have an idea for an online business but people think it’s risky? Forget their opinions. They’re based on their or other people’s experiences. We are all different, what works for you might not work for others and the other way around. Thing is, there is no such thing as risk. I know. Let’s say that again together: there is no such thing as risk. 

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3.  Start seeing yourself as a powerful person

Do you think you’re powerful? How do you define power within one self? You probably have role models, people who you look up to and admire for their strong personality. Do you know what they have, maybe a little bit more than yourself? Confidence. Being confident will make you powerful. Trust yourself. Believe in your own power. We all have something amazing within ourselves! Don’t let negative thinking bring you down and just focus on your strong characteristics. It’s like in a job interview, you play on your strengths, not your weaknesses. Do the same in life and you’ll live happily!

4.  Speak positively – use your own positive words

How many times do you find yourself complaining during the day? Seriously now, start to notice how many times you say something negative. Moaning about stuff is really natural for some, even for myself. It took me a long time to educate myself to spread less negative vibes and turn my life around. I know it’s not fun and games 24/7 but let’s stop playing the victim. Ultimately, we’re a product of how we react to things happening around us. Our reactions make up the life we want to live. You smashed your favourite glass by mistake? Are you getting angry and start cleaning in a rush? Or are you at peace with yourself and think ‘life goes on, I’ll get a better one tomorrow’? If you’re getting angry, you might cut your finger and one unfortunate event will follow another one. If you decide to be cool about it, you have something to look forward to: your new glass. Notice how your reaction really influences the flow of things in your life. So, start using your positive words and notice their impact in both daily life, but also reaching your goals.

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5. Practice the power of daily meditation and positive affirmations

You believe in a positive life. Say that to yourself during a daily meditation. Find a phrase that you really love and make that your motto. Even more than that, stick post-it notes on your fridge, desk or mirror to constantly remind yourself that you’re up to something great. Remember, having an image of your ideal life is great! Don’t feel the need to meet every single aspect of it as we need to keep that mystery we discussed about previously. Let the Universe know that you’re open to whatever goodness is throwing at you. You’re going to become stronger, hence more and more confident as everyday goes by.

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There you have it, my top five tips on becoming your most confident-self! I’m sure they will stay at the base of you achieving your plans in life. I really believe that confident people rule the world. Your turn, let me know if the comment section below, what do you do to become more confident?

Lots of love,

NotAGirlyGal