Do you feel that your success is actually a fraud? That you don’t really deserve all the things you’ve achieved? Many people who have succeeded in life, either suddenly or have worked hard for success, end up blaming themselves and believing that they didn’t actually deserve it.
If you feel you fall into this category, this article is for you. It’s time to realise that you actually deserve all the good things in your life: your career, your relationships, the love you’re receiving. Instead of blaming yourself, you should be grateful for everything you’re currently enjoying.
Now, what I need you to do is just sit down. Pour yourself a glass of fresh water and let’s go through this article together. Focus and get ready feel less anxious and proud of your accomplishments.
“I still have a little impostor syndrome… It doesn’t go away, that feeling that you shouldn’t take me that seriously. What do I know? I share that with you because we all have doubts in our abilities, about our power and what that power is.”Michele Obama
Fess’ up! It’s time to say what’s on your mind. One of the reasons you feel overwhelmed and guilty is because you’re going through them on your own. Instead, talk to your loved ones and tell them how you feel. Once you do that, you’ll realise how silly you sound! The imposter syndrome is not an easy one. It comes with a lot of guilt. That’s why you need to talk about it to overcome it.
“Be humble. Not knowing something doesn’t make you a fraud, it makes you a student.”Marie Forleo
Negativity has never helped. In a world as harsh as the one we live in, you have to think positively in order to evolve. Look on the bright side. If you were the person who succeeded, it doesn’t mean you took away the chance from someone who may deserve it more. You need to exploit your work and prove to yourself that you are the right person for the job.
Success is not easy, you will meet jealous people who will make you feel like an imposter. Stereotypes often arise such as: “Surely he had relationships so he could reach such a high rank”. Don’t feel overwhelmed, feel proud. You know what the truth is and you don’t have to let anyone else tell you otherwise. Surround yourself with like-minded people who can rejoice in your achievements. Put aside the negativity and hate in your life and focus on becoming the best version of yourself.
You are not perfect
“You don’t have to be an expert. No one is expecting you to be an expert. All you need to do is show up and be you”Ruth Soukup
The imposter syndrome often triggers because you feel you have to be perfect to achieve success. However, this is far from the truth. Perfection is an impossible thing that no one can have. It’s normal to not know what to say or how to act in different situations. So, if you’re ever put in a situation where you don’t know what to do, don’t think you are not good enough. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone has doubts. You can ask for advice or learn from the people around you. Besides, it’s important to admit to yourself that you’re not the best at everything. For example, there are people who have superior writing skills but are afraid to speak in public. That doesn’t mean they don’t have the words, just that they aren’t necessarily good in a particular field. This can be overcome with good advice, exercise and determination.
“True impostors don’t have this feeling” -Dr. Albers
It is indeed a fact that real imposters do not have this syndrome. Remember that 90% of intelligent people with a high success rate deal with this syndrome. So if you have realised that you fall into the group of people who have to deal with imposter syndrome, you are a person who has all of the above. You are a hardworking, perfectionist person who often cannot take credit for what you do. It is not a bad thing to be humble, however you should not load yourself with such negative energies.
So, if you need a reminder that you deserve everything you have achieved so far, go back in time and go through all the things you have done to achieve success. That’s how you’ll realise that you actually deserve everything that happens to you.
Perhaps it seems to you that only people with a serious problem talk to therapists. Well, it’s not real at all. Everyone needs a licensed, non-subjective person to talk to from time to time. I should mention that when it comes to the imposter syndrome, advice from a professional is much more recommended than advice from a friend.
A therapist will find an innovative and intelligent method to help you overcome your problems. They will never judge you and will make you understand in a split second that you really have nothing to feel guilty about.
That’s why I personally suggest everyone around me to book a session with a therapist from time to time and talk about certain issues.
All things considered, you don’t have to feel guilty about having achieved great things. On the contrary, be proud of your success and help others to rise with you. You can follow any or all of these tips. The decision is in your hands. In the end, all I wish for you is that you make it through this bump in your life and realise how unique you are. If you still have questions or maybe just want to chat with someone, slide into my Instagram DM’s (@notagirlygal).
Until next time,